I have two grown sons who both have wonderful girlfriends. I want your honest answers to give me more insight to be the very best "mom" I can be!
2006-11-29 12:54:39 · 15 answers · asked by Maggie Mae 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i love her coz we can talk about girly stuff and serious stuff. shes nice and the first time i met her she said "you can call me mom". i felt so overwhelmed. she recently bought some land which was to be split three ways among my boyfriend and his siblings, she said its her gift to US. whenever my boyfriend invites me to his family gatherings his mom goes around and introduces me to his relatives as her "daughter-in-law" it warms my heart to feel accepted but by her saying that makes me think that i have some pretty big shoes to fill. i was the first girl he ever brought home to momma. what i don't like about her--nothing really because shes just being a good mom. she is a great housewife and she takes good care of her family. when she buys something for herself she gets one for her daughter and me too. just get to know them better, don't preempt anything by making them play the role of the daughter-in-law, it must come naturally. if she makes a mistake give it time. some things may be different in other families, if she smacks food at dinner calmly tell your son about it in PRIVATE and tell him to handle it. do not tell all your bridge group that she is like this or like that. you can be wrong. some people get to know their in-laws after 5 years of marriage...relax and treat her like a friend. i always run to my boyfriends mom if i have a problem but we've been together for 1 year and 8 months.
2006-11-29 13:06:35 · answer #1 · answered by painintheneck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I consider myself fortunate to have such a wonderfull future mother in law. She is a very loving and kind person. I know my fiance ended up being the wonderfull man he is today because of her. The one thing I dislike is the fact that she keeps insisting that we move to Colarado, where she lives. We live in California, I'm going to school here as is my fiance and his band is here. Moving to Colorado is just not a possibility for us. I understand she wants to be closer to us but we have to much going on here to move. I always feel guilty having to let her down when she asks if we'll move there.
2006-11-29 13:00:12 · answer #2 · answered by Lachelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i'm married. but... first let me say that i'm glad you like your sons girlfriends. my mother-in-law didn't like me very much when we met. i think mostly because i looked different (had crazy dyed hair, piercings and tattoos) but after a while she got used to me and we are a lot alike.
i like the fact that she is funny and fun. she isn't afraid to joke around. we treat eachother more like friends. i like it that even if my husband isn't around... she'll call sometimes to see if i want to come over and eat lunch with her or something. it's very nice.
things i don't like about her: well, there really isn't much. she's a very loud person, but that is just funny more than anything. also she has been raising my sister in law after her husband died for the past 10 years and she hasn't done a great job with instilling the value of money to her. but that really doesn't have anything to do with her being my mother in law. anyway. i love my husbands mother and hate it that she just got remarried and moved kinda far away.
hope that helps!
2006-11-29 13:31:19 · answer #3 · answered by somebody's a mom!! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually love his mom!
Well...I am 21...so I am at that stage were Mom's start to not like their Sons girlfriends...so i am lucky that she likes me so much!
She just talks to me and tries to involve me in things...she has called and asked if I wanted to go shopping with her. And one of her sons plays in a band and she has asked me to go watch that with him and drink a little...just things like that.
I am sure that you will do fine...you seem to have their best interest! Good for you..and them!
2006-11-29 12:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by TNL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she has good intentions, it's just the way they come across.
what i like best is that she is a very good listener and is more like a real mom. my mom was young so she is more like a sister.
what i like least is that she can be kind of fake sometimes. like she will tell me she doesnt like someone and then when they are around she acts like they are best friends.
other than that we get along great.
2006-11-29 13:00:14 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing i like about my boyfriend mother is she speaks her mind but in a sweet way she keep people in line without hurting people feelings what i dislike the most is that she always have a way of telling me how to raise my baby i no she only wants to help me but it only upsets me because in a way it makes me fell like a bad mother because she always have something to say about the was i raise my child i no she have 7 kid and she have raised them well but i jus want to be able to raise my child the way i do and i no ill be fine and so will he
2006-11-29 13:07:50 · answer #6 · answered by super mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am now married to him so she's actually my mom in law. I love her because she accepted me from the first day we met. I am very quiet and shy and people tend to mistake it for me being stuck up. She welcomed me with open arms and brags about me to everyone.
2006-11-29 12:57:48 · answer #7 · answered by SmartyPants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i like the fact she always has a plate out for me for dinner
i ate the fact that mothers still want to make their sons choices for them that is sooo annoying its like they are grown up now they can think for themsefs now
2006-11-29 12:57:27 · answer #8 · answered by TiGa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they date a skinny girl and you have just started cooking and she says that smells good, don't say honey go and get as much as you want with your skinny ***
2006-11-29 12:57:46 · answer #9 · answered by the sweetest 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never met my husbands mother. They no longer speak. I am soo lucky.
2006-11-29 13:54:15 · answer #10 · answered by blue_6670 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋