I'm bi and I love my friend, shes not a lesbian and I told her that I liked her and she crushed me by laughing ans satying "Ew! Kaitie dont joke like that, but ceral, you dont have like a lesbian crush on me do you?" and I had to go home I was crying so hard, my arents asked, and I want to tell! So very much!
2006-11-29 12:46:58 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry to hear that. You don't have to tell them now but you'll have to tell them sooner or later. If your parents love you they would accept your sexuality and help you get over your pain. As for telling your friend that you're bi, well, that's entirely up to you.
2006-11-29 12:50:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kaitie you are still very young, & still developing sexually. Don't be too quick to label yourself as Gay, Bi, or anything because it is not very unusual for hetrosexual girls your age to have a serious crush on another female. As you grow you may discover that you are more complicated sexually than what a simple label could describe so stay clear of labelling yourself until you have found love, & lost love a few times.
I am so very sorry that your crush rejected you, you must really admire her very much, & it was very brave of you to put yourself out to her like you did. It is too bad that she wasn't ready for your advances, all I can say is that the hurt will soon pass, & your feelings for this particular girl will subside eventually.
Going to your parents & declaring yourself a bi-sexual, or a lesbian may distract them from the real issue right now, & that is that you are hurting from a rejected love.
So I wouldn't come right out & say that I am gay to them, just tell them the situation as it is, & let them fill in the blanks as necessary.
Your parents love you very much, & want to support you during this time while you are hurting emotionally. So give them a chance. *HUGS*
2006-11-29 21:12:48 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww, babe, I had that very same problem. I am also bi and hve feelings for my best friend. I know she's hard to forget, but if she's not a lesbian/bi, then she most likely won't turn that way. If she does, then yes, give her a chance. Don't be afraid to confess your true feelings to her. If you need to ask any more questions like this, mail me and tell me what's up, ok?
ladycats3rdbasingshortstop47@yahoo.com
2006-11-29 21:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by Becca! At The Disco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to tell them now leave it alone for now you were rejected by a crush so what it is not the end of the world, move on with your life time will ease the hurt don't complicate things even more.
2006-11-29 21:09:34 · answer #4 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, tell them "would you get mad at me if in was a bi?" and eventually they will tell you what they think.But first, if your parents are strict, tell them politely then tell them why r u in love. And if they say something offendable tell them, "Well, this is my life and whatever i am, i am that way. 'cause i can do whatever i want" dont start a big argument thats for sure.
2006-11-29 20:55:18 · answer #5 · answered by nococaine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you hon? Lemme tell you, a lot of girls in their early teens go through feelings like this. It may pass. However, if your older, then it's okay! It's who you are, that's all. I don't see why you have to tell your rents...at least till you get into a relationship with another girl.
2006-11-29 20:51:39 · answer #6 · answered by javaluv2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it would be good that u would Tell your parents. they want to know whats happening in your life for a reason. they love and you should be able to tell them. as for ur friend i don't think she was being as Nice as she could have been about the situation.
2006-11-29 20:50:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry your friend reacted the way she did and hurt your feelings. she was probably caught off guard and didn't know what to say.
if you want to talk to your parents, sit them down and ask them to listen to what you have to say. then just tell them. they might not know how to react either, but allow them time if they need it, to absorb it. they should love you regardless.
2006-11-29 20:50:54 · answer #8 · answered by Cassian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them straight out mom dad i think I'm bi. they should except you (that's what i would do) they should embrace your sexuality. give yourself some timed to figure out ur sexuality but don't be ashamed of it. you are who you are and no one can say anything to you about that.
2006-11-29 20:50:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know how she feels from her reaction. What's the issue? Leave it alone and enjoy having her company in other ways.
2006-11-29 20:49:25 · answer #10 · answered by spag 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋