Dating my bf for 3 months and he told me he loves me.He takes me out,calls me, listens, is generous, has an ok personality and we get along-he doesn't like to argue.He accepts me for who I am-Doesnt care if I dont shave. My Problems: He's not much taller than me, could benefit from an orthodontist and some stomach pastic surg. for the extra skin (he lost a lot of weight).The sex it OK& im sure it can get better.I have a grad degree while he has a HS diploma.Everytime he opens his mouth, despite his general attractiveness I don't like to look at his teeth, they're distracting. He can be scattered brained and not make the best decisions. He allows himself to get taken advantage of by his family and roommates.I'm attractive and get hit on often and I have a 'friend' I'm physically attracted to him (and he has a degree which is a big +) more than my nice bf.Should I pursue my "friendship" and keep him as a 'friend'/potential bf? I dont want to hurt my bf. My 'friend' wants to hang out w/me
2006-11-29 12:46:03 · 5 answers · asked by Violet Wisdom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've read your responses so far and I know it sounds terrible about what I said about my bf/ Thing is, I DO like him, I DO care about him and I want to look past some of these things.He does treat me well and I always say thank-you and let him know I appreciate him.I just really need to be physically attracted to my bf and I'm not sure if it's always an instant thing or if it can come later in time.I'd love to be able to get over some of these petty things and I think I can, I'm just not sure if I should. I value education and so does my family.I'd prefer a guy with a degree and I'm young enough that it could still happen-but I'm not jumping to leave my bf because I do care about and appreciate him. Like I said, I don't want to hurt him but I want to do what's best for me also.This isn't easy for me guys, I wish my tone didn't come out so bad before because some of you were very harsh in your comments.Please give me honest advice without being cruel.I don't mean to be CruelToMyBfEither
2006-11-29 13:12:18 · update #1
Ha, lady. You'll be divorced and lamenting where you went wrong in 5 or 10 years. You'll be bitter like the rest who chose looks over substance. Good luck with that. And just so you know: If I was your boyfriend and I had seen what you wrote about me, you wouldn't need to have asked the question. I would be LONG gone.
2006-11-29 12:52:01 · answer #1 · answered by TheOneVersion3.0 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why are you with this guy? It's obvious from your analysis of him that he is definitely NOT a "potential boyfriend". You are never going to fall in love with this guy.
Listen to yourself. He loves you and looks after you. You find him convenient, that's all. In other words, you're using this guy who loves you.
You should be ashamed of yourself.
Besides, while you are using this guy, you are not likely to meet someone that you could be genuinely attracted to.
And if you approach relationships on the basis of snobbery about education and looks rather than personality and compatibility, then I can guarantee you will not find your soulmate, nor ever have a truly happy long-lasting marriage.
2006-11-29 20:53:02 · answer #2 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean no disrespect but do you know what a low class person you sound like criticizing a guy that is good to you as badly as you are. Dump him. You'll be doing him the favor...not you. Sorry to sound harsh.
2006-11-29 20:50:34 · answer #3 · answered by Kyle Silver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll leave your bf and the new guy will dog you, I guarantee it. Than you'll be crying and asking yourself why you left the 1st guy. I hope you do leave your bf, and I hope the new guy treats you like crap!!! You will deserve it. Goes out on you, empties your bank accout, lies to you, gives you an std, comes and goes as he pleases. Go for it girlfriend!
2006-11-29 21:00:26 · answer #4 · answered by cold runner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope.
2006-11-30 01:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by diamondg4u2c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋