My son, who is 21, was in the hospital for an extended period, and a nurse there, who is 43, formed some kind of attraction to him. So when he came home she continued to call him pretty much every day, once at 12:00 a.m. (I quickly put an end to that!), was sending him pictures, and wanted him to come live with her. To me, a woman that age with grown children could only view someone that much younger as a child also. What's the attraction to much younger men? And, should I interfere?
2006-11-29 12:36:32 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your son is an adult so he should be old enough for mom not to come and fight his battles.... but I am with you this heifer needs to go find someone her own age to play with. If she were going after my boy I would go kick her butt but good and tell her the get the hell away from my boy.
2006-11-29 12:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Such things are known as a May-December relationship, where there is a substantial age differance between two legally consenting adults. They arent for everyone but they can be just as healthy as any other relationship. The key is the level of maturity of the younger partner (well, the older one too), which in this case your son. Im 22, and at times can behave much more rationally than people twice my age (but I have also liked twice my age and to those i have held my ground as an equal and not as a child). What you need to ask and be concerned over is not the age, but whether its healthy within any relationship to ask someone else to move in so early and without knowing them too well. I think you need to speak to your son about what relationship he expects with this woman, what she expects from him, and whether this would be desirable in any "normal" relationship. You shouldnt interfere, but that doesnt mean you cant talk to him and find out if he understands his choice.
2006-11-29 20:53:02 · answer #2 · answered by uberzwitter67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 35 and recently divorced, I met my husband. He was only 21, but he lied and said he was 26 because he really wanted to see me. He knew I was very concerned about the age difference (when I thought he was 26). It took many months before he confessed his true age to me. We have been together for 10 years now and we are married with 2 children. We have been very happy. Sometimes the attraction is not for younger men, but for older women. Needless to say, I apologized to his mother when I found out & she still hasn't accepte the relationship. By the time I found out the truth, I was in love.
2006-11-29 20:49:50 · answer #3 · answered by Ambrosia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The nurse may be realizing that she is getting older, may be divorced and needs some reassurance that she still has it. A 21 is in his sexual prime, she may want some new excitement in her life. What 21 year old male would not want to be a sex slave to a more experienced woman. There is a big age difference, I would monitor the situation, remember that your "baby" is a 21 year old adult. The more negative that you show the more it may push him towards her. Be neutral and hopefully it is only a passing thing.
2006-11-29 20:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by cm f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that its impossible for a older woman to be attracted to a younger guy but in my personal opinion its for the benefit of either ego to know you can get him or for sex because hes young and has more energy sexually. But thats all i can see and would seriously questions a womans mentality to want to date someone so much younger than her. I am 26 and dont even like to date man who is 25. So go figure.......i mean the possibility is there that she is being genuine or wants someone to take care of but who knows.......ask her?
2006-11-29 20:41:21 · answer #5 · answered by exceptionallyexceptional 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mothers always want the best for their sons. Over protective no you are not. Have your son listen to your side on this without cutting down the older woman. He will make the right decision.
2006-11-29 20:39:54 · answer #6 · answered by Lore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STAY OUT OF IT MOM!
I know you're just trying to protect your baby boy, but you've got to cut the apron strings sometime. Besides, he may carry on the relationship just because it's driving you crazy.
He's an adult, let him make his own mistakes. It's the only way he'll learn.
2006-11-29 20:42:37 · answer #7 · answered by MsLongBeach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
younger men stay up all night....do not interfere for that will push him closer to her......i was a milf at 40 by a 24yr old and man oh man he was great
2006-11-29 20:43:05 · answer #8 · answered by iloeta1164 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son is an adult, he should be treated as such. Unless he proves that he is not mentally capable of making his own decisions.
2006-11-29 20:41:12 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is your son 21 and living with you?
2006-11-29 20:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by Paul 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋