I have a question for you all?

Question

Can someone PLEASE explain to me why people judge you when they don't even know you? Sure, I'll admit that I have done it before, everyone has but some people just don't know when to stop. Like when I asked an ignorant question (purposely) here on yahoo and some people told me that I porbably won't even make it to high school or that I need professional help (even though I'm ALREADY in high school). They don't even know me. Or when people don't want to be friends with me because I'm an atheist, well ****, their loss. Or when people tell me that I need an IQ boost and that I need to put my crack pipe down.

Has this ever happened to you? Have people talked about you when they don't even know you? Does it feel good?

To the first poster, I doubt anyone is jealous of me.

And I also hate when they think I'm "just a kid" when they look at my username.

Most of you seem to think I'm mad about the "ignorant" question I asked on purpose. Let me tell you that you're wrong, that was 2 weeks ago and it got deleted anyway. I'm not mad because of ONLY that, actually I'm not mad at all. I just find it very idiotic when people do that.

Answer 1

Don't worry about it, they're just jealous cause your smarter then them either that or they just have a pathetic life where they spend their time on the Internet insulting people to get their kicks, either way they are the ones that need help, not you.

Answer 2

In person people are judged immediately. Can't judge a book by it's cover. BS. We're taught to. Police do it. Security does it. This is in person. Nevermind the fact that on here most people don't even use their names so that they can belittle other's, be rude, annoying, etc. You cannot come into a venue like this with high expectations of etiquette and charm. This is anywhere where someone does not have to look you in the face. Look into your eyes. it's sad but it's becoming evermore popular with the world of technology. I say if you are atheist and proud of it then don't worry about what other's think of you or your beliefs. If your beliefs do not hurt anyone then there is absolutely nothing to worry about. Maybe these people just get joy out of sounding ignorant. Also your playing with fire when you decide to place a question intentionally for responses that you pretty much already know the outcome to. Why do it? It's a waste of other people's time and yours. Hopefully this is a serious question. Best of luck to you and again who cares what other's think.

Answer 3

no offense sweetheart, and i mean this in the nicest way, but looking over some of your answers to other people's questions that you have answered, you dont seem like you were being exactly civil with them, you're not giving people much to go off of here. im sure you are a nice person, and maybe you are just having a good time, but some may not view it the same. i'm catholic, but i feel no resentment towards you for being an athiest, that is your choice, and yes, if other people cannot accept that about you, they are not worth your time! hell, i have friends that are in alot of different religions, and that is never an issue, unless they feel the need to make it an issue between us. just try being a bit more tactful and maybe things will get better. no one should judge you for your age. age is nothing but power. dont let anyone put you down or not take you seriously over one little number!

Answer 4

When you enter a grocery store do you judge the items that you are shopping for, or simply pick whatever up and throw it into your shopping cart?

My point is that by human nature we judge and compare against what we know, and what we believe is true and right. I do not believe that this simple human behavior could honest be totally suppressed. So what do we do with this behavior?

I try to listen to those I do not understand. I try to evaluation what my belief system is, I continue to believe it is true, and I live what I profess I believe!

If I believe something to be true, and certain actions to be harmful, then it takes quite alot of reason, an explanation for me to back away from my established beliefs. I do not change with the direction of the wind.

People will always judge me according to THEIR perception. This is human nature as well. I do not take offense at what they do not understand. It is my obligation to show through example that maybe they are wrong about me. Sometimes it works, sometimes I am never going to change that persons mind. God will handle these circumstances.

I do not let it bother me.

Answer 5

Those are all people who need to be ignored. They're blowing off steam, and they think they're cute while they're doing it. Half the time they just think they're funny, and don't even mean what they say.
No, it doesn't feel good. Take it from someone who was tormented all throughout high school. I didn't trust anyone. But then one day I decided that I was no longer going to care about what other people thought of me.
Please try not to take it personally. It's sad that people have to make jokes by putting other people down, but I've learned that they only reason they do it is to get a reaction. If you truly think their responses are inappropriate, report them as abuse.
Some of these people need to look back and see that no one's laughing.

Answer 6

Yo_Funky

You sound like a pretty smart person. You are well spoken, and intelligent enough to realize that everyone is judgmental. But, like anything else, there are degrees or levels. Ever answered any type of questionnaire - rate this from 1 to 10, with 10 being the most judgmental and 1 being the least judgmental - have you seen something like that before? I'm pretty close to being a 1, but I know more 10's than I'd like to.

Sometimes though, I think the reason people are judgmental of complete strangers is because they can get away with it; like someone giving you rude answers like you mention. They're just mean-spirited and immature. Ignore their remarks, 'cause their opinions shouldn't matter to you...you don't know them.

People who are judgmental and hypercritical towards others are very often unhappy with themselves. They have flaws in themselves that they either cannot or will not face. They can't possibly admit to themselves that they aren't perfect. They know their are things about themselves they don't like and rather than trying to work on themselves they go looking for flaws in everyone or everything else. They almost literally can't stop themselves

The only way they can gain some kind of satisfaction - not happiness - is by distracting themselves from their own imperfections by pointing out what's wrong with someone else. One would think that it would be enough for such a person to simply think about how imperfect others are and revel in being superior, but somehow it's not. They have to say it out loud, the more people around the better. They need to be noticed, but they push people away because they don't want to be hurt themseves.

I'm sure you will find that judgmental people also think they're always right. Basically, to their way of thinking, if you don't agree with them all the time there must be something wrong with you or what you're doing. Here again, they're not so confident as you might think...likely very unsure of themselves.

Starting to see the pattern here? What you're talking about is emotional bullies. Bullies are cowards and will back down if confronted. I am by no means suggesting confrontation. It's a waste of valuable energy. In many cases you can ignore them or avoid being around them and their negative vibes.

I know what others say often hurts. You can take away their power to hurt you by learning to understand them and recognize them for the unhappy, low-self-esteemed people they are.

You hit a nerve here, Yo!!! Just want you to know that knowledge is power. If you learn about things that are troublesome to you it will often turn out that they were only troublesome because you did not understand.

In the meantime, try not to take everything those strange people say to you to heart. You're right...they have no more idea who they're talking to than I do...but I'm pretty non-judgmental...LOL

Surround yourself with people who lift you up!!!

Answer 7

don't worry about it. they are only going by the question that you asked. you know that you're not ignorant.

i have found that the people who think so little of me (i'm sure that they're out there) don't have opinions that i value anyway.

the ones making the most noise are the ones in need of validation. don't give it to them.

if people don't want to be friends because you're an atheist then you probably wouldn't want them as a friend in the first place.

you sound like an open minded intelligent individual. you just need to find others like yourself.

Answer 8

Well, thats not judging you, thats jsut being mean. Judging you is something differant.

I doubt anyone really beleives you are a crack addict highschool drop out becuase you asked an ignorant question on the internet.

Answer 9

I feel for you there.Yesterday an atheist friend of mine said he was an atheist and someone said "Liek,oh meh gawd, do you liek ,worship SATAN?!?!"
People have judged me because I do not have the convictions that most Christians have.You really should not judge someone when you know nothing about that person or their religious or spiritual beliefs.....
I have never understood why people have to go crying and screaming to their Mommies and Daddies just because someone happens to be different and happy.....

Answer 10

When people doesn't know someone but judge them, I believe that anyone would be unhappy.
Such situation has ever happened to me. I really feel so upset about that.But what I can do?If I say something,they may feel you are arguing with them.If I say nothing,it would be like I make some mistakes.So,It really doesn't feel good.

Answer 11

Most people tend to judge people by looks, body gestures etc.because of past experiences that they have had encountered, seen or observed. Let's say an Middle Eastern Man (Arab man), because people often see in the news how they beheaded Westeners, do suicide bombings etc. we tend to judge them if we see one (especially in airplanes).