I am in a wonderful relationship with my boyfriend, going on a little over a year. We've taken things really slowly, mostly because we want to get to know each other better. Long conversations, going out on walks. I even spent a semester in London and we managed to keep up a great correspondence while I was away.
Recently, I realized I truely love him. The same goes for him. It's an exhilarting feeling to be able to finally declare we love one another without worrying that we're giving away more than we actually feel. A great majority of our time is recently been taken up with each other, away from our group of friends. So much so that I rarely see my friends for more than two to three hours a week except for in passing to class or meals. They haven't said anything, since they enjoy joshing us about our obvious infatuation with one another.
But is this going to crash? I love spending time with him. I'm just worried I'm spending too much, and neglecting a social life. Is this wrong?
2006-11-29 12:19:20 · 16 answers · asked by Evoo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not that I suddenly find I don't want to spend time with him. I just find myself wanting to spend ALL my time with him. Including the time I need to be doing my work for class. Luckily it hasn't cut into my grades or sleep yet. I'm just a little worried that if I'm not careful, it will. Advice on curbing my enthusiasum?
2006-11-29 12:29:18 · update #1
You sound like a smart, caring, compassionate woman. You're in love! Savor it! Your friends are probably not saying anything because they respect what's going on. In time, you'll be calling them to set up social time again - but right now - you're enjoying being in love - and spending time with that special person.
The fact that you're aware that it's going on - and asking if it's wrong says a lot about you. You know that balance is important. Maybe you should start to consciously make a little more time for your friends now. Don't shut them out. Love is grand - but friends are a VERY important part of your life too!
2006-11-29 12:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that if you're worried about it, yes, it may be a problem. It's understandable that you guys want to spend as much time alone as possible, but it might also be fun to do things together with your friends once in a while (like once or twice a week). That way you could still be together, but each of you could keep up with friends and have a social life.
2006-11-29 20:23:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not think that you are wrong.. i would say if your in love, realize that you have the rest of your lives to spend with each other and remember that true, good friends are hard to find (i can vouch for that).. and i think that if your friends really care for you they will understand what you are trying to do for the man you love.. but don't leave to much empty time with your friends because they might be a little hateful if something doesn't work out with you and your love and all the sudden you go running back to them.. good luck in everything and very best wishes to you and your love..
2006-11-29 20:25:22 · answer #3 · answered by ~broken~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you have a little trouble prioritizing. At this stage in your life, school and your friends are what you really need to be focused on. You need to spend time with him ONLY when it's convenient for both of you. Your social life can't be confined to one person. Set aside some time each day for your friends, some for him, and some just for you.
2006-11-29 20:38:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ok to love someone but i think that you should give a little bit of space. If you both are truely in love with one another then you have the rest of your lives to spend time with eachother. Don't let the fire burn out to quick.
2006-11-29 20:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by terri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way this is wrong.
If u are spending lots of time with your boyfriend, thats also mean your boyfriend is also spending lots of time with you.
Is your boy friend studying?. You should spend constructive time together. Sit together and finish your homework, learn something together, play games together. This way your love will get stronger and u wouldn't be affected.
U and your boyfriend should focus on studies. Love is looking together in same direction not liking each other.
2006-11-29 20:26:36 · answer #6 · answered by prashmanic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no this is normal.every relation ship feels like we need to seperat.
i would just talk to him 1 or 2 times a day not 10 times a day with long conversation.make the conversaion short. for about 2 weeks and it would be better.u 2 just sent to much time togher.it will get better
~â¥jamieâ¥~
2006-11-29 20:25:46 · answer #7 · answered by jamie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are spending time with someone you love, there is nothing wrong with that you still spend time with your friends not as much as before, your friends understand and they do let you know.
2006-11-29 20:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong at all ,,,, You have to live your life for you not others ,,,, Try to maintain a friendly balance with your other friends and if they tease you about you being gone most of the time then just smile and say "I've been busy" ,,,,
2006-11-29 20:46:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are spending to much time with him .you need to have a life and a time for yourself , your family and such .if you dont get that balance in your life sooner or latter one of you will suffocatte and get tired of the other ,and who are you going to turn to when you need friends to cheer you up if you have neglected your friends? think about it.
p. s. remember Jesus loves you very much.you are important to God.
2006-11-29 20:26:33 · answer #10 · answered by sarabasti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋