Why are people like this?

Question

I am christian, and most of my friends are christian although one of my closest friends is wiccan. All my christian friends are so mean to her, they call her all sorts of names, and she takes all of it with a smile. And when its just me & her she cries alot because of how much it hurts her. She's the one who at least tries to love everyone, and turns the other cheek. You know, what my CHRISTIAN friends are supposed to do. My question is weather my friends are just hypocritical, or if its just me

Also, my friends aren't bad people usually, its just they have never ever tried to learn about another religion.

and also, to the me not sticking upfor her thing, I do. Even though she asks me not to

Answer 1

I experienced a similar thing myself. All my friends were Christians, and so was I, but we had this one Jewish friend from Israel. All of us Christians (me included) were making fun of this one girl in our class who we thought was only pretending to be sick. But the Jewish girl did not make fun of her, and rushed over to her and got her water and made her feel better. It turns out, the girl really was sick. I felt so ashamed, and wondered why it was that all of our Christian teachings we threw out the window. All along, I'd been taught not to judge by my Christian teachers, but it took a Jewish girl to really teach me not to judge.

People of every religion can show love and character of course. One should never assume that only their religion has a monopoly on these good qualities. And we should learn from everyone we meet.

Answer 2

Dear TheDom,

1 Thessalonians 5:14 tells us: Now we exhort you brethren, warn those who are unruly, comfort the fainthearted, uphold the weak, be patient with all.

This verse is a passage that reminds the believers of certain very important things in light of the Lord's coming return.

I am not sure why your Christian friends behave the way that they do. But i do know that it does not seem to very Christ like. I have found often that Christians can be right about many things that they say- but are wrong in the way that they say it. We are reminded in Colossians that are words should always be seasoned with grace- and yet often we find a correct message but communicated not with the heart of Christ.

i shared that passage above to encourage you and remind you that people are at different places with Christ. Perhaps some of your friends are immature in their faith or don't know how to handle a situation that's different.

i'm really sorry for the pain your friend must be feeling, and you should lovingly correct your friends (speak the truth in love) because their actions are causing another person to stumble and turn away from the Lord and they should be finding ways to bring ehr closer to the Lord.

Hope this helps. Feel free if to email me with more specifics.

Kindly,

Nickster

Answer 3

Your friends have that "our way or the highway" religious attitudes. And actually there are alot of Wiccans, Druids, Pagans who get treated like that by those types. Whether or not your friends are real christians using the bible as a weapon, or just fakes who are trying to cause problems for the Wiccan, is not for me to decide, but there is no need to be harassing someone just because of their religious beliefs. Your Wiccan friend is following the teachings of her religion perfectly if she can continue to try and respect and love everyone the same, and you're doing a wonderful job by giving her support whenever the comments bring her down.

I'm a Druid myself, and feel there are quite a few people out there who need to learn about and respect other faiths. It's called freedom of religion, and I fully support it.

Answer 4

You're friends are hypocrites and the way they act is the reason why alot of people don't like christians. I have some really good friends in pretty much every religion but by far the pagan ones are the nicest and most giving.
Bythe way do you stand up for your wiccan friend or just let her get treated like garbage because you don't want to lose your other friends? If you keep quiet for selfish reasons than you are worse than the name callers in my opinion. You need to tell them in no uncertain terms that they need to stop bashing her or you won't be their friends anymore.

Answer 5

I am a Christian and i used to have a wiccan friend too, (she moved away a yr ago) I was never mean to her, i sometimes questioned her beliefs, but not to convert her, just to learn, she would do the same. We had fun with each other, and i believe your so-called christian friends are hypocritical. Remember, anyone can claim they are christian.

Answer 6

Your friends are being very un-Jesus like.
What is the definition of the word "Christian"?
I would politely ask these "friends" of yours to back off and be kind to your friend.I would ask them to be more open minded and thoughtful.Wiccans are very spiritual,kind people.They are always full of such passion and insight when you present a problem to them.A wiccan friend of mine is currently trying to help me with my spiritual problems right now. I wish your friends could see that.
More than that,they should respect her as a person.They should forget about their spiritual(more like religious) differences and get to know her as a person.I feel for your friend.I am more of a "turn the other cheek " person myself.People say its "not standing up for your self",but I just hate conflict.

Answer 7

You're doing the right thing by loving your Wiccan friend, even if your "Christian" friends won't. They're either not real Christians (since, Christianity is based on love), or they're hypocritical.

Good for you. :)

Answer 8

Obviously your friends are hypocritical.

You should explain to your Christian friend that they should act like Chrisitans, especially to those who are not Christians. Your wiccan friend may never learn the truth of Christianity if your friends do not preach it by their actions.

Answer 9

Your friends are hypocrites. They are not true Christians, since Christianity must be based on love. Not the love we found from the world, but the love that Christ demonstrated for us.

Answer 10

your friends are hypocritical. You need to tell them to back off. also they can't exectly be Christian because, I think, Jesus said that you must love all no matter who they are. Your a good person, and have alot of tolerance toward others. I like Christians like that, I just wish there were more.