Family argument: Should I get involved?

Question

My two aunts have been fighting with each other for the last several years. My family is very reserved (inlaws debating over sports teams is considered an argument) and so fighting tends to consist of them not talking, having to arrange different housing for them, etc. My understanding is something happened a few years back, and now they are dredging up old childhood arguments and taking offence to minor things. The rest of the family gets along well (including their husbands) and their fight is hurting the rest of the family, especially my younger cousins. A while ago my grandmother tried to write them a letter encouraging them to patch things up, but it didn't work.

After this Thanksgiving I have been wondering if I should try the same thing. Maybe a plea coming from their niece might work better then one from their mother (I'm 19, so I can handle getting in the middle, if need be). We see each other only a few times a year and it's sad to see them like this.

Any thoughts?

Answer 1

no, when they are on their death beds they'll know why none of the relatives come to visit

Answer 2

there's sure no harm in trying to help. and it might be better with it coming from you instead of their mother. just tell them both how much you love them and how much it would mean to you and the rest of the family if they made up. and remind them that life on this earth is so very short. the Bible says that this life is but a vapor. that's proof of how short it really is. and God never promises us another day. they need to work things out for the whole family, but especially for the sake of themselves. I think you're doing a very sweet and caring thing by getting involved.
I sincerely wish you the best.

Answer 3

I have two aunts who do the same exact thing. They fight constantly and its tearing the family apart. Unfortunately, I dont know how to help you though because nothing has been working in my family. Maybe you should just point out how rediculous they are acting. Maybe if they come to realize how much of their life they are wasting on such a trivial thing and how many people they are hurting by their actions, it will be enough to make them stop fighting. Good luck. I hope whatever you chose to do works.

Answer 4

I have to sadly admit that adults sometimes behave worse than children. Your aunts are a good example as to what you should never become. I don't think that writing a letter to them asking them to stop being silly will work. The only persons that can achieve some sort of peace between your aunts, are their respective husbands...think of it.

Answer 5

my mom haves the exact problem me 2 wit my cuz but it aint my fault shes the 1 who started it 1st so i really cant give u advice but i think sooner or later it can b years maybe in there 60s or less age they will know omg the stupidest things we did in our childhood and they will learn all that time they lost when they could of been happy wit each other or maybe they can go counseling

Answer 6

yes, you do get involved... my husbands side of the family
does the same thing and my side get along good....It's
stupid..... I cook for thanksgiving and Christmas and invite
everyone.... they come , they eat, and they start to argue.....
but I put my foot down... ,and tell them there not ruining
my dinner for my family.... then they straighten up
for a little while......until the next holiday.... they need
someone to flat out tell them-- to get over it, and family is
the only thing that matters....

Answer 7

NO! Do not get in the middle. example: two snakes fighting, then a third interferes. The two snakes will then turn their attention on the intruder.

Answer 8

Stay out of it. You don't want them to think that you are choosing sides. Then they will both be against you. Let them handle it themselves. If their own mother couldn't patch it up, then no one can. Keep your comments to yourself, that is the best solution for you.

Answer 9

Well Rachel, since you're not directly involved in it you should just stay out of it all together. But that's only my opinion.

Answer 10

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Answer 11

No, no, no. Never get involved in family arguments. It's best to stay neutral and stay out of it or you will find yourself smack dab in the middle of it. It's best to just keep everyone liking you.