I think my 6 yr old son saw my husband and I having sex...?

Question

Please only serious answers!

He was outside playing in the yard and stepped in puppy poop so he took his boots off at the door so we didn't hear him come in. While taking off his boots he got some poop on his hand so he came to our bathroom to wash his hands. When we heard the water come on we froze and I wiggled over next to my husband. He asked why is mommy on top of you daddy? and why aren't you wearing any clothes? Is there a correct way to handle the situation? Should we try to discuss it with him or just leave it alone. He talks a lot and he talks loud. My worry is that he is going to ask his teacher or my inlaws or just talk about it at school. I am a substitue teacher and a voluteer at his school and I would be mortified if he did say something. What should I do?

Again, please only serious answers. Any rude or distastful comments will be reported.

Just to clarify he is infact 6 and in the 1st grade, not 16.

Answer 1

I think you should let it rest. Kids will never forget something like that. They soak up everything. But if you keep pushing it and pushing it, he will get it in his mind more and more, and will then start asking questions.

The majority of the times, he will never wonder about it. Let him be a child.

And lock your door next time.

Answer 2

All parents are worried about "getting caught" in the act. I have had this experience when my children were supposed to be sleeping and my husband and I wanted to spend quality time with each other. I would sit down (both of you) without looking guilty, an ask your son what he thinks was happening. You would be surprised by his answers. You don't want him growing up feeling guilty or having a complex because he caught you two together. If he gives you an acceptable answer, I would leave it at that. If he is confused and bothered about the situation I would explain to him that Mommies and Daddies like to have some alone-time with each other and that you thought he was busy playing outside. At his age I would not explain or introduce the word "intercourse" or "making love" to his vocabulary.

Answer 3

I honestly don't think that they, at the school, would be mortified to find out you, a married woman, is having sex.

You have done nothing wrong and these things happen. I don't know how much your son saw, but you can sit him down quietly and explain to him that what he saw was a kind of a 'hug' that mommy and daddy do. That is all you have to say. Ok? Don't worry about it. Even if he did blurt something out, it wouldn't sound as bad as you are imagining it might. Again, I'd just sit your son down and have a short talk with him, don't make a big deal out of it and that's it.

Answer 4

If he saw the two of you, and he ask you, then you should respond honestly. You may benefit by saying, "son, next time before you enter mommy's and daddy's room, Knock.

There is no need to get into details with him. In fact, how many things do you remember your parent(s) say to you when you were only 6 years old?

Not much, is it. However, although I understand where you are coming from, the pro's recommends that you: Talk about sexuality when they are little, they will learn to trust you and will be more likely to come to you when they have concerns as they get older.

Hope this answers your question!

Answer 5

First off, let me say that I think toronto was a real asshole for his answer to you!

That being said, this is definitely a delicate, and, pardon the pun "ticklish" situation. Try to gage how he reacts to you and your husband, and use wise judgment! If he has acted like he has forgot, then let it go. If he acts different around you, then the three of you (I think it is very important for your husband to be in this conversation as well) need to set him down, and ask him if what happened upset him and why? Then explain to him (as far as he can comprehend) what was going on, and that it is something that is natural, but should not be talked about outside of the home.

I pray God gives you the wisdom and tact to deal with this delicate situation.

Answer 6

Ouch kind of young to be learning about the birds and the bees, Gees, u r in a dilemma. Well has he said or brought the subject up again since? If not leave it alone and pray he doesn't say or remember something that'll remind him of what he saw, cuz he definitely saw something what he ain't sure but u were naked doing it. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.

Answer 7

I think Carebears had a great answer. Six-year-olds are naturally curious but can't take in complex details and don't want a complex answer. The more we obsess over it, the more anxiety we provoke, the more attention we draw to it, and/or the more we risk its being seen as something "dirty" rather than an act of love. If you simply tell him that this is how adults show their love for each other when they are married, that should satisfy him until he's a little older.

Answer 8

tell him you were playing a game of Hop on Pop. JK My hisband and I joke about that would be what w' tell our kids if we got caught. In any case, I think at that moment when he asked you could have said you were giving your husband a massage maybe? but now perhaps it's best to leave it alone for a while. if he brings it up again tell him it was a massge and with any luck he will forget it as he gets older.

Answer 9

That has happened to us too, and we just tried to play it off like we were doing something else. I am always afraid of my 7 year old son talking too., because he is definitley a talker and has said some embarrasing things to others before..but I would try to just really leave it alone and hopefully he forgets about it. If you try and discuss it, then it may stick in his head longer and he may ask others questions too. Sorry I dont have a better solution. That is a hard one to answer.

Answer 10

I would leave it alone unless he brings it up again ;) This happened to me I have two boys! If its brought up again then sit down with him and explain what you are comfortable with. If he asks teacher or inlaws its ok, you are married people have sex lol! The more comfortable and well adjusted you are with your sexuality the more comfortable he will be coming to you when it matters most ( Thus the teenage years) Good Luck!

Answer 11

Using a calm & casual tone of voice, tell him that Mommy & Daddy were making love and calmly change the subject as if you & your husband's sweat-producing activity is of no more concern than that. Ask him what happened to his boots, and offer to help him clean them, etc. Children are naturally curious about such things, so the more you treat it as a normal part of your relationship and nothing to be concerned about, the less likely he will be to spread it all over the neighborhood.