Anything wrong with this letter? 3 days and no reply yet :(?

Question

Readers, please be informed that I am from a very conservative place, so getting a girl to go out on a date with you is not as easy as in the western world. Thanks for your time. Read on....

Hello ,

This is , your colleague. How are you doing? First of all, I wish to tell you that I am truly sorry if you feel this email to be an invasion of privacy, and I would like you to accept my sincere apologies. Secondly, I want you to know that I have not resorted to any unfair means to get your personal email address. I found your email address in the official email sent earlier today. If you are comfortable so far, please read on....

I am in since 6th Nov. for a training program. I felt I should talk to you before I came here which is why I asked you if you would like to have coffee with me. I know you prefer milk to coffee, so, perhaps my question should have been, 'Would you like to have a cup of milk with me?'. Just kidding :-)

I dont know if you were worried that I would blurt something inappropriate, but I consider myself a very mature person and would never do or say anything that would put either of us in an embarrassing situation. Like I told you, my sole intentions were just to get to know you better and nothing else. I was not disappointed that you decided not to go for coffee with me, but I was disappointed because you chose to not even answer my question. You could have simply come and told me that you would not like to have a drink with me. All the same, I somehow got a feeling [and I could be totally wrong] that you were not comfortable talking to me within the office, so I thought I should try a different medium, and hence this mail.

On the 4th of Nov. [a Saturday] I came to office to gather some documents for the training program and I was surpised to see you in office because I thought you worked Monday to Friday.

I was contemplating if I should use that opportunity to tell you that I would be in for sometime, but just as I was deciding, I noticed that you and your friend went towards the other aisle, and I had no choice but to leave quietly. Anyway....

This mail is getting too long, so I will wrap it up here. You may choose to reply with whatever you feel or think. I assure you, I will take no offence and will certainly not harbour any hard feelings. I also wish to reiterate that if you choose not to reply, I shall whole-heartedly respect your decision and you have my word, I will not trouble you any further.

Take Care,

Answer 1

To me it seems as if she is not interested in you, sorry but if she was she would have replied to your email.

Answer 2

OK. First of all it is way to long. You don't want to bore her to death!! Well, I agree with the way you worded it. it makes you seem intelligent (you probably are) which is a good thing. Just use some of the intellectual words that are already in there, and say something brief. For example "hello I'm sorry that this might feel like I'm invading your privacy but I'm not I just want to know you." or something like that because I didn't even want to read most of it but I was very impressed with the intellectual words in there though keep that up. Women want a smart man who will love and hold them. So i hope i helped. Bye!!!

Answer 3

OK bud, try talking to her in person, next time u see her. Dont worry, maybe she afraid to sound foolish. Perhaps she even likes you. You can reitterate that you jsut want to talk like friends...but the whole milk thing may creep her out and make her feel lik ur stocking her. Still its cute...dont worry...im sure that all will turn out for the best.

Answer 4

I dont see anything wrong with it... it is a little long and wordy but you sound very mature and like a very nice person... maybe she hasnt been able to read the mail yet or hasnt found the time to reply. Hope everything works out well. Good luck!

Answer 5

Why all this. You asked her to go for a drink and she turned you down. Let it go, you are probably freaking her out now. Regardless of where you live, no response means no. Maybe she doesn't like being approached at work for a date in any manner. I think you should just move on. Sorry if you are upset about it but; there are other women.

Answer 6

Sorry to hear that she did not answer. I think you like an ice Queen. Maybe it is for the better. Why should you bother with a person, who does not even have enough courtesy to respond.

Answer 7

there is nothing wrong with that. i once sent a girl a message similar to yours only way shorter. maybe she doesnt feel the same way but atleast u kan tell her ur feelings now

Answer 8

wow.....not very personal huh? maybe she was panicked. it kind of sounded like a business letter type thing, very serious and u pinned alot of stuff on her maybe other things were going on with her, in my opinion i would have let it be if she says no obviously shes not interested, maybe she was scared of how you would react, because to me u sound like you might over react to things....

Answer 9

that letter is rigid, conformed, tasteless, anal rentive and creepy.
I would think obsesive is a good word too.
cup of milk?? puh, get a cat

Answer 10

i think that is a very nice very polite answer. i dont why she didnt even answer. i think thats kinda rude. hope things work out.