Here are just a few things that have happened: SIL's told my husband if he calls me 5 times he must call them 5 times; leaving nasty messages on our voicemail disrespecting both my husband and I, buying a plane ticket even though I asked her not to and as a result we ended up spending Valentine's Day with her. We did not even get to go out to dinner. Won't talk to me if we have a disagreement. They run to my husband instead, complaining about me. These are just a few things that have happened. I agreed to move here so he could see his family more often, yet I am very upset about how they are acting knowing what I sacrificed by not moving near my parents and sisters, etc....
2006-11-29 11:25:40 · 12 answers · asked by Dolphin73 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
your husband need to understand that when you get married you create a new family. you are his family now and the rest comes last. if he loves you he should stand by you 100%
2006-11-29 14:22:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of the responsibilities of a husband and/or wife is to support the other emotionally. Approach your husband with your concerns. He may not be aware of the situation. I would suggest you don't use the word "sacrifice" when talking to your husband. Let him know you love him. If what he says is something you can't live with, you may have to consider leaving.
2006-11-29 20:17:31 · answer #2 · answered by Baby Poots 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there. you're his wife and 1st priority so he needs to get a back bone and stop letting them disrespect you. your situation can be grounds for divorce. you all don't have to like each other but put your foot down. and as far as getting tickets for special occasions, he would have been on that plane alone. by giving in, you're giving them control. and if it comes to it, when he goesto his fam, then you go to yours. i did that and we're still together. don't ever let anyone rent space in your mind. you and him need to talk to each other and when you do, don't let your emotions get the best of you. when you talk you have to listen. what ever you do, do not ever let your're in-laws, your or his, have power over your marriage. if you have to move somewhere in the middle and they have to come to you, then do it. you must take control. wish you well. and lots of luck.
2006-11-29 19:41:06 · answer #3 · answered by NoDeal21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband should stand up for you, if he isn't you need to speak up to him and them telling them you won't be treated like this anymore. You don't have to put up with their rubbish. So why did you and your husband move closer to her? Does he have other family near by? I really hope it wasn't her that he wanted to be near. If it is I'd leave him there with her and go home.
2006-11-29 19:43:16 · answer #4 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to me please, I've been there & done that & although I was a ***** at times I think the reason why was because my ex never stood up for me or himself for that fact. I so regret (except for my daughter) marrying a man that wasn't really a man. If I said jump he say how high? Unless you make HIM put his family in place you'll never be happy.
2006-11-29 20:00:05 · answer #5 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to step up to the plate and do something about this. It's his family. It must come from him.
2006-11-29 19:28:14 · answer #6 · answered by sheeny 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your husband to stand up to the plate and stand up for "HIS" wife! How far from your family are you? Tell your SIL's how you feel.. Tell your husband to tell them...
2006-11-29 19:49:24 · answer #7 · answered by MC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband needs to stand by you 100% and tell his family if they disrespect you they are not respecting him...have sex in front of her she will not come back.
2006-11-29 19:35:52 · answer #8 · answered by iloeta1164 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe yoy and your husband should talk to your in-laws together. lay down the law dont take that crap.
2006-11-29 19:39:40 · answer #9 · answered by ReRe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that when ever she try to make you angry, just ignore her. She just wants you to react and get upset, and that is just what she wants, so if u just ignore it, she won't get what she wants and stop.
also, have you talked to your husband? he should be fending for you and saying, "hey, leave her alone"
2006-11-29 20:06:51 · answer #10 · answered by ::h:o:l:l:i:s:t:e:r:: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋