well,I live with this these two parents that i call mom and dad but just today that the parent dad that i live with told me my real mom and dad gave me and my brother up when we were little.Now i feel upset and shocked and i keep thinking about it.what should i do?
2006-11-29 11:24:46 · 8 answers · asked by girlygirl8 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
hun, dont feel bad, I know alot of times people feel unloved when things like this happen, your adoptive parents must really love you...as for why parents give kids up I could never understand it I knew a guy who got kicked out of so many homes it wasnt funny and one day I was sitting there thinking how much I would love to raise some one like him..some people are just consumed in self I guess.
2006-11-29 11:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by StarWarsFanatic 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The people raising you ARE Mom and Dad. You have an extended family. Does your brother live with you too? Find out if your birth mother or father left instructions for you to contact them if and when you wanted to. Ask your mom and dad to get in touch with them if at all possible. Remember, the woman that gave you birth loved you enough to know that, for whatever reason, she could not take care of you like she wanted you to be taken care of, so she provided a way for two people to have the child they wanted, knowing they would give you the kind of life she wanted you to have.
I know it must be difficult, I have an adopted sister, but remember that your situation just shows how many people really love you and want the best for you.
You have 4 parents!!! KEWL!
2006-11-29 19:30:44 · answer #2 · answered by Texanborn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It must be terribly upsetting to you to learn that you were adopted. I wish you had been told that years ago when you were very young so that you would have accepted it from the very beginning. Do you think your dad is telling you the truth? He wasn't joking with you, was he? Why did he tell you this now? If he is seriously telling you the truth, you might want to talk to him and your mom and learn more about the adoption and how they came to be the adoptive parents. I would suggest that you not do anything for awhile until you learn more answers. Then you can decide whether or not you want to try to find your biological parents.
2006-11-29 19:32:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anniesgran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you for being shocked. I'm sure it was really weird. The best thing to do is to still think of your adoptive parents as your real parents. They are the ones that CHOSE you and raised you.
And don't think you are worthless because you were "given away." I don't know what the situation was but its a sure bet you are a LOT better off with your adoptive parents than you would have ever been with your biological parents.
Good luck.
2006-11-30 06:03:26 · answer #4 · answered by Voodoid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept the truth, and be thankful that your parents are there and that they wanted you to know the truth. It might hurt, but would you have rather kept living in a lie. What would you do if you were in your father's situation? Perhaps this doesn't help, and if he broke the news to you in a fit of rage or to just make you upset, forget about it, and learn from their mistake when and if you decide to have children.
2006-11-29 19:31:35 · answer #5 · answered by Matt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing really i mean the two parents are the closest thing to a mom and dad so you should be grateful for having someone than nothing at all
2006-11-29 19:28:24 · answer #6 · answered by Carla 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
ONCE YOU GET A LITTLE OLDER
THEN YOU CAN FIND OUT WHY THEY GAVE YOU UP
MIGHT EVEN BE ABLE TO MEET THEM
2006-11-29 19:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be emo and start cutting yourself not accepting the fact that your parents lied to you for so long (?)
2006-11-29 19:27:03 · answer #8 · answered by piercedgal 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋