My family tells me this all the time. I've never been on a date. I have about 2 or 3 crushes a year, many of which I never act on because I either discover the guy is already taken or the guy seems unlikely to take an interest in me. The few times (three) I have actually asked guys out I have been rejected. I don't go around with my man-radar searching for and flirting with single men. When I have a crush the guy is all I talk about--I plan how I'm going to ask him out, hoping for the best and inside expecting the worst. I don't understand why this is "trying too hard." This is the extent of my non-existent love life. Does anyone understand this? My family seems to think I should do absolutely nothing and wait for the proverbial "Prince Charming" to sweep me off my feet. Guess what? I'm 25 and there's no Prince Charming in sight! I've never been asked out by any genuinely decent guy (i.e. not a guy hanging out of his car at the mall asking me for my number).
2006-11-29 11:20:20 · 8 answers · asked by bluebutterfly081 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Can I have your number?
2006-11-29 11:22:23 · answer #1 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask any more guys out until you feel really good about yourself. Focus on developing your interests and creating a group of female friends that you enjoy spending time with. Friends and family are the best way to meet men, and it happens more naturally and feels more safe. There is a good book called "The Artist's Way" that has all kinds of exercises for developing yourself and it takes months to finish. If you are interested in expanding your own creativity, you should go out and buy it. You are a mere 25 - you have to be patient...
2006-11-29 11:53:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
alright girl, here's my opinion. What they mean by trying too hard is that you have made guys a bit of an obsession in your life, seems like you create your world around the guy of the moment. When i'm having off months, i try and do things for myself that make me feel better about myself. Try and start a new work out regiment, start eating better, get your hair done, nails done, make it a point to go out with the girls, or start playing in an adult sport league. These are things that can take your mind off your love life and give you some confidence while you're at it. People always say that you can't look for love, it has to find you.. this is GOOD advice. You need to stop looking so hard and concentrate on yourself. When you stop making guys too much of a priority, you'll see that you become more attractive to guys. You'll be more confident, having more fun when you go out, look care free, and fun. You need to look approachable to be approachable. Another idea is to have your friends set you up on some dates, or go out in groups with your freinds' boyfreind's friends. keep it a no pressure situation and it's a great way to meet people. Your family just cares about you, so don't be offended by their comments, but you really need to take a step back and concentrate on yourself and you'll see it will work out. don't ask guys out anymore, it will hurt your confidence and self-esteem. instead, get big groups together to go out. alright, good luck!
2006-11-29 11:30:58 · answer #3 · answered by TimeWillTell 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem and you know what i found out? Forget about your family saying that you try to hard. They don't understand. You can't sit around waiting for Prince charming..you have to go and find him yourslef. and i promise that once you get out there, meet some guys, and start actually having a love life...you will meet prince charming.
2006-11-29 11:25:29 · answer #4 · answered by Katie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do trust you to a particular volume. once you advise the ppl that date youthful persons, are you nevertheless speaking about 14 12 months olds? if so, definite, they're gross pedos. yet what about those couples the position there's a huge age hollow ( 10+ years) notwithstanding the more youthful one is an human being? in case you savor a similar issues and ought to keep one yet another more than satisfied then i dont see what the priority is. human beings should be mature for his or her age. I were given out of the hardcore clubbing scene through the time i replaced into 19.
2016-10-16 11:07:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the guy is all you talk about when you have a crush — that could be a sign. What they mean to say is, you worry about dating too much. Try thinking and talking about something more important. What you're doing now is no way to get any respect.
2006-11-29 12:57:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre desperate
2006-11-29 11:36:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u sound like me
2006-11-29 11:24:05 · answer #8 · answered by Restricted 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋