we have 3 rooms in our whole house. .they are all taken this is my first time i have ever had my own room my mom and i just decorated it (painted it bought new furniture, new flooring etc) and my sister calls and asks me if she moves back in will i share it with her i said ok....but its really hard for me to say no...she makes messes and controls everything.....should i tell her no and how do tell her nicely????
2006-11-29 11:15:57 · 22 answers · asked by amy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
no she is a nanny for this lady she gets her own room there but she wants to move back
2006-11-29 11:27:08 · update #1
Can't throw out your own sister in the streets.Is she alcoholist?
2006-11-29 11:21:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in a good situation but you don't even know it!
First, if your sister is old enough to move out I'm guessing she's over 18. Which means she's an adult. Let this be a lesson for both of you.
As an adult every decision you make WILL affect your life. Some decisions are good and some are bad. When she moved out she gave up seniority to the room. This is good for you. Now that she wants to come home she needs to understand the consequences of her actions.
Look before you leap sort of speak.
She no longer holds that seniority level. This room will be shared by you BUT under your rules. I think if you approach your mother with this philosophy she will agree AND probably be impressed.
Make this an opportunity for you to lay some ground rules.
No clutter, No mess etc... with additional consequences agreed upon.
If she doesn't like it, she doesn't have to move in. But if she wants to move in she MUST agree to those terms.
2006-11-29 23:47:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, definitely tell her no. This is one of those situations where being selfish is OKAY; sharing a room before obviously was not a comfortable situation. Just let her know nicely that she moved out and you've settled in, and a lot of things have changed. Tell her that because she moved out, she will need to make other arrangements. Be very nice and sincere and make sure you let her know you would like her to come back, but you don't think sharing is the best idea due to past experiences.
In all honesty, she will probably be mad at first, but it will be worth it in the end.
2006-11-29 19:24:00 · answer #3 · answered by sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you said Yes, then you said Yes... you could have said.. No go ask someone else...
But again, she is your sister.. and its not like its YOUR house ya know?
Try to make some rules.. it is your room ya know... so make some rules, like what time she has to turn off the lights/tv.. she has to clean up on these days etc etc.
You could also seperate your room by mounting a long rope from one end to the other and hang sheets on it, so one half will be hers and the other half yours. That way, you still have your own room, just smaller.
2006-11-29 19:19:18 · answer #4 · answered by yo mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, I don't really know why your sister is moving back in but there is a saying that home is the best. Sometimes when we are disppointed by people we trust and things like that, we may have only our family to fall on.
Your sister is God's gift to you just as you are God's gift to her. No one is perfect. Its important that we learn to leave with each others imperfection as a sign of our true love for them. This may be another opportunity to spend a fun and good time with her. Talk with her, tell her how you feel and don't forget to let her know in the process how much you love her as God's gift to you.
2006-11-29 19:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by Melody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you will help her move in to another room. Tell her you will help her decorate and buy new furniture for her. Do not let her sneak in to your room, since you don't like it. If you don't like to see it happening, then don't say "Yes." Stick to your guns and tell her there's a change of plan.
2006-11-29 19:23:23 · answer #6 · answered by Calculus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest, you have a right to have your own space, she has been out on her own (or living with a boyfriend) and has had her "space" let her share a room with someone else.
2006-11-29 19:19:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the alternative? Should she live under a bridge? let her share the room
2006-11-29 19:18:22 · answer #8 · answered by bayareart1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to be nice man, just TELL HER..... tell what you told us, that it's the first time you ever had your own room and you don't wanna share it with her.
2006-11-29 19:22:05 · answer #9 · answered by Debbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i knoe how u feel! my 23yo sis just moved bac in and know i have to share a room and a bed! with her and her 2yo daughter. yea it suks pretty bad but at the end of the day shes my sis and u have to sacrifices for the ppl u love
2006-11-29 19:23:47 · answer #10 · answered by Dan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should first ask her her plans, how long does she plan to share the room ??
Then work on alternantives from that point on..
2006-11-29 19:21:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋