Is this Normal thinking for a teen?

Question

I know how dramatic this sounds but I feel as though no one understands me. I mean..for a teenager I'm very emotional and think about things in depth so much more then others and no one seems to understand. Take for instance the fact that in Psychology 2 we were watching a video on massive killers and stuff like that and just imagining people screaming and fear and everything...made my eyes all watery. I think my teacher noticed but he always jokes around and he's like "She seems freaked out."he said that about me.

Another reason why I feel lost is because sometimes I feel like ...no all the time I know that i'll never find a boyfriend. I never had a boyfriend, I never danced with a boy, no kiss,no date,never been asked out. Anything like that. i'm in 11th grade and I feel like an outcast.

Also, one of my close friends i'm super serious with and other people I can joke around. I mean ever since I found out more about her it's like i'm so darn serious. (Continued)

Also, I always write about sad,dark,deppressiong stuff in my poetry even when half of the stuff i'm writing about don't even apply to me.

Also, I'm super shy but at times i'll get this sudden burst of talkativeness and talk to people I don't really know...it's rare but it happens. *done*

I'm 16years old.

**LITTLE MORE DETAIL--sorry**

Sometimes I feel like when i'm actually talking someone that they don't want to talk to me and find me annoying. Also, I get upset when my close friend(same one above) forgets or spaces off when I talk to her about some stuff. Then she admits that half of the stuff i'm saying are boring. I get upset if i'm talking to her and the next day she forgets all about it.

Answer 1

Aw honey, you sound very normal. Being a teenaged girl is really hard - it will get better.

Answer 2

It's called being a teenager. Some teenagers go through the dark side with deep poetry, crying, and can get very emotional at times. However, what concerns me is your teachers lack of maturity in his comments. If I were your mother I would certainly have a meeting with him to get the full story and why he reacted that way. Eventually you will find a good friend that will listen. I didn't date until I went to college but I found my soulmate eventually when it was right and we have been married 18 years. Don't rush life and if you feel bad talk to your parents they are there to help no matter how silly you think it may sound.

Answer 3

It just sounds like you're a very sensitive young woman who is a deep thinker and doesn't necessarily take everthing at face-value. You look for depth and deeper meaning in things and like to analyze.

Maybe you should confide in this serious friend about your shyness and how it's troubling you that you don't have a satisfying social life. She might be able to help you in certain aspects and the other way around as well, i.e., you might be able to offer her insight into some of her problems. Either way, at least you've made a really close friend. And don't be in a hurry for a boyfriend. The right one will come along soon enough.

Answer 4

A lot of teen girls go through this.
I know what you mean, I went through a similer time-writing dark poetry, feeling lost, and thinking about things so much more in depth than most of my friends, feeling like no one understood me..

You'll get through it. I did. Just be strong

When it comes to guys- maybe this isn't the right time for you. when you're ready, a guy will come around.

So you just have to begin to understand that who you are is okay. It's good that you're emotional. would you rather be a robot?
Take time every day to find something good about yourself, and your confidence will grow. Realize how good of a life you have and recognize all the love and support you have in your life from your friends and family. This is what being a teenager means-being insecure and overcoming it; becoming strong. That's how you mature into being an adult.

Answer 5

You kinda sound like me!

For the first thing, it's ok to be senstive to some stuff. At least you're not like the some ppl were they can watch someone get their head blown off and put it out or minds an hour later. (I can do that but it makes me feel like I'm insensitve to other ppl for putting that type of thing in the back of my head.) But it's ok. Not everyone likes or can handle gore and guts.

Guess what? I'm 18, in college and I have yet to have a boyfriend. I've been asked out once or twice, but I wasn't interested. I wrote a question about this. (click my name and check out my questions)

This last part appies to me too. I'm come off as quiet and serious. For this reason I have trouble joking around w/ ppl. I have to say, "just kidding" for them to get I was just kidding. I have a friend who takes everything I say seriously or turns a joke into something serious. So, I've just gotten used to talking about serious stuff around her and trying to joke w/ other ppl. (I'm not very social so I don't joke with very many other ppl)

I hope it helps to see that you're not the only one. But trust me, besides you and me there are others because there's nothing new under the sun! (not counting a few inventions...)

Answer 6

Your teacher sounds insensitive, those things should bother you, I'd be more concerned if they didn't. It's also not bad to be without a boyfriend. The dating stuff all comes when you are truly ready and waiting for it makes it that much better. If you really need someone to talk to, you should start with a guidance counselor or someone similiar to that position at school. They might be able to help you understand yourself better. Hang in there, I hated High School pretty much like you do now, but my life got a whole lot better after and I couldn't be happier now. Don't compare yourself to others, you're in individual and that makes you special in your own right. Good Luck.

Answer 7

Is there a chance you might be depressed. I think that talking to your parents, minister, teacher, doctor or someone you trust might be very beneficial to you. As far as never finding a boyfriend, honey we all go through that. I did and you know what, I grew up, found the love of my life and we have been together ever since, still in love after 14 years.

Seriously though, talk to someone, it'll help. Everyone feels like an outcast from time to time but if its distrupting your daily life and hapiness then you need to talk to someone.

Answer 8

sure its normal....you would not believe what i have going on in my head. i am afraid of my mind controlling me/ making myself think things i dont think. like, if you think something, it right away happens to you. i got afraid of this ever since my mom and i had this talk about 2 years ago that the mind is a great force and can do a lot of things (she meant this in a positive way, but i reversed it because i think too much). so now i have weird anxieties about this.
so you think you're the only one that's weird, think again. i go through all the things you do. ive never had a bf either and all the other stuff you said (im 14 btw)
also, people that i am around affect me soo much. one person i am serious with, another i am fun, another i cant talk loud, its weird but i think im like extremely sensitive, and what i think a person thinks of me is the way i am. and no i am not faking.
anyhoo, do not worry because it may seem like you are the only one like this, when, fact is, you are not. i too am wayy smarter and think too deeply for my age.

Answer 9

Relatively normal. Most people think about killing others at some point, but rarely actually do anything. So as long as you don't go around shooting people and stealing cars, then you're 100% normal.

Answer 10

Well I believe you are part of an elite group of teens that thinks totally different that the rest of teenager. I am also part of this elite also even though i have a gf and have done all thos ethings . You are still very special in your own way. Because you have not experiences all theses things before you have a greater chance at succeecing at life then others. Which means sooner or later things will turn around and you will ftit

Answer 11

I feel the same way everyday. I am an emotionally sensitive person. And I always have deep thoughts about everything specially about the things I feel, the feelings i have towards people, what they feel about me.etc. and I always have reeeeally deep thoughts about everything. Specially my own thoughts and feelings. Most of the time I'll be just laying around in my bed staring at nowhere, thinking deep and imagining things.can i just ask what's your zodiac sign? cause most of the times scorpios have that natural personality of being emotional and self centered