Ive been with my partner for 5 years I was 16 when we started dating he is 20 years older than me and we have two childern together.We should be getting married december next year but he's been cheating on me for 3 years. I found out 2 years ago but I forgave him because I was pregnant and I love him more than words can say he told me he would'nt do it again but he did it to me over and over again. im to scared to be on my own ive tryed to leave him but i just dont seam to get past the door. I feel like im going to break in half my heart just cant take anymore pain but i have to stay strong for my girls.He tells me he's going to change and I really want to believe him but how can I when everytime i start to get a little trust back for him he dose it again.He even court an STD off her. It was so humiliating because i was pegnant and i had to go and get tested to make sure he never passed it to me luckly for me i was fine. please can someone give me some advise I dont no what else to do
2006-11-29 10:57:33 · 10 answers · asked by mez 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know how you feel, I have been, in the same boat.Your heart aches at the thought of them with someone else but you don't know how to be strong for you and your children.He could have passed something to your child and possible one day he could bring something home that you wont be able to cure.
You have to be strong and think of your children. Get your strength and leave. it will be hard at first but you can do it. If you have family go to them for strength. if you need an ear email me. Good Luck and you are in my prayers.
2006-11-29 11:04:19 · answer #1 · answered by faith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of the difficulty, perhaps, is because you were so young when you two got together to begin with. Perhaps he is the first, or the first serious relationship or whatever. But is it worth the risks, like, eventually you probably will get sick from this guy, and then your life is ruined. Relationships become a lot more difficult and dicey once that's happened. Good thing is that you've dodged that bullet, but I'd take it as a warning to how things may be in the future.
The other issue is your not wanting to be alone and thinking that you have to have someone around. That isn't the case at all, what most fail to realize, is that without being alone for a period of time they're just going into the next relationship with the same problems, and it never does work out for them. Get out while you can!
2006-11-29 11:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well think of it this way, do you want your daughters to see and use you as an example regarding relationships? I'm really sorry that you have this going on for you. If he's cheating on you and has been for the past 3 yrs, marrying him isn't going to stop him from doing that. Have more self worth and do the thing that you know would be best for you and your girls. They look to you as their example...would you want them to stay with a man that cheated on them the way that your partner has cheated on you? Probably not. Be strong for both you and your girls....
2006-11-29 11:05:07 · answer #3 · answered by kristina807 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you should leave him; He cheated on you more than once so obviously he is not going to change. Why keep losing your time and energy on this when you can be happy with your girls and maybe you will find someone that really respects you. If you were tested for STD aren’t you afraid you might go thru this again and risking of getting it just because he doesn’t seem to respect you. Leave him, be strong for your girls, do it for them, you don’t need him to be happy.
2006-11-29 11:04:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about your girls and realize that that type of man that constantly breaks his promises doesn't need to be around them. If your hurting believe me your girls can tell. You need to be strong and move on. Don't think of it as you being alone because your girls will be with you and that should be enough. Then one day a great guy is going to come into your life but it will never happen if you never let this guy go that hurts you and lies. Your better than that. Its hard but I have faith in you that you can move on! Once a cheater always a cheater!!
2006-11-29 11:02:47 · answer #5 · answered by bktp37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out...This man is doing nothing but bringing you and your family down. Make a better life for you and your kids. I'm sure your family can help and you can go to your local county offices and get aid from them until you can get on your feet. Its better to leave and be happy.
2006-11-29 11:02:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you need to dump that piece of trash and move on. He obviously does not respect you at all.
I know it is hard to move forward, but you must! There are better men out there!
2006-11-29 11:00:20 · answer #7 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People that bring the bad stuff home should be left before you catch it. Cheating means he don't love you anyways.
2006-11-29 11:00:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry - there is no cure for stupidity.
2006-11-29 10:59:38 · answer #9 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
LEAVE HIM NOW!!!!
2006-11-29 10:59:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋