my boyfriend has been takeing off for about a month and a half for about a week each time he has done it 4 times and it scarres me that something has happend to him but when he finaly calls im so happy to hear from him im not mad anymore. what am i supost to do when i love him to much to leave him and i have two kids that love him to death and i just cant let them get hurt he is way to importent to them.
2006-11-29 10:53:41 · 9 answers · asked by Saddgal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hate to say it sweetie but I cannot see where this is a positive thing for you or your kids. God forbbid that you find out he has some sort of addiction that is leading to his absences... which is definitely not good for any of you. You need to have a very frank discussion with him letting him know how it makes you and the kids feel when he disappears. If he does it again then you have a very red flag letting you know that it is time to cut ties. It matters not why he's been doing it just that he is. You need to protect your children from the hurt of someone unreliable in their lives. Perhaps this is his way of telling you that he's not able to say goodbye but needs to. Talk with him...not with the kids around. Find out what's going on. If he can't tell you ... you tell him goodbye. be strong for the kids and don't be selfish or foolish enough to allow this to continue. Good luck sweetie.
2006-11-29 11:01:05 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think leaving him would hurt the kids?? TRUST ME it will hurt them MORE if you stay through this.. Your kids know if you are happy and if mommy is not happy then the kids are not happy!! What if next time he brings a little something back for you and your kids catch it think of it that way... Aids is more common then you think anymore.. is that something you want to put your kids through.. Don't you think he would still come to see them if you and him broke up? And if he wont why is that the type of man you want around your kids? I wish you the BEST of luck!
2006-11-29 19:04:49 · answer #2 · answered by Carrie M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie... get as far away from him as possible. This is a problem that could be very dangerous for you and the kids. For one thing, he is not being considerate of you and the kids... he might be in something deep and dangerous. You have a chance to free yourself of this especially if you're not married to him. I'm not saying abandoning his parental rights with the kids but by getting legal protection you can help save you and youor kids from much heartbreak, as well as, get your boyfriend the help he needs.
2006-11-29 19:16:51 · answer #3 · answered by ezlayedback 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your boyfriend still has a lot of growing up to do, my dear. I find that so many of us forget common courtesy with our family and friends and lovers. Surely we'd be more polite to a stranger, than our spouse, children, parents,etc. What's wrong with this picture you ask? Exactly. Your boyfriend should have enough respect for you to let you know that he's alright. You may want to re-evaluate your relationship with him.
2006-11-29 19:03:26 · answer #4 · answered by Mona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well why is he leaving for so long is there another girl?
you need to go with him next time if he says no then you know whats up
2006-11-29 18:57:46 · answer #5 · answered by BROWNLYN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has another g/f..
You are just a friend with benefits..
You need a Man who will marry you, commit and care for you..
2006-11-29 18:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him now and protect the kids. They "will" get over it. Don't think about yourself.
2006-11-29 18:56:01 · answer #7 · answered by hazelblue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and he better listen cause he shouldn't put you through that!
2006-11-29 18:57:39 · answer #8 · answered by Casey H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe have more babies with him and start over and over.
2006-11-29 18:56:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋