I found out and it bothers me, I acualy think he finds other women attractive. He looked up things & downloaded things that discusted me =/ What should I do???
2006-11-29 10:32:37 · 33 answers · asked by sogullablegurly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
leave him alone. if he was having sex with these women then you'd have a problem.
2006-11-29 10:33:50 · answer #1 · answered by S 2 · 0⤊ 5⤋
He is wrong and you are right!!! If he cares anything about you at all,there is no excuse for him to look at the porns any where. I don't care if it is on the TV, magazines, on the comp, etc. There is no excuse for it. That is just a cheap way of cheating on you. And I wouldn't even go as far as telling him that you would watch them with him, that is a bad move as well. If you and you alone are not good enough for him to see, then you need to move on. How would he like it if it was you in those porns for everybody to see? I noticed that in one of the answers you got, they suggested that you start acting like a porn in the bedroom, that won't work, oh it will the first time or two but it is a short lived thing and he will go right back to looking at them again. So don't lower your self down to his level. If you are not good enough for him, move on and he will see what he USE TO HAVE. He is showing no respect for you at all. And what he has is a sickness and also by him try to hid what he is doing, he is in fact cheating on you in a cheap way. I hope he is not paying to see that crap!!!
2016-05-23 03:11:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes guys just need to look at porn. It's not a reflection on you. It's like sometimes guys need to jerk off, even if they're getting sex every night. It's not the end of the world because these women don't look like you.
Maybe he gets things out of the porn that he doesn't want to ask you for (because there's a difference between sex and love, it's possible to have one without the other). And there's nothing wrong with him finding other women attractive. Just because he's going to be married, doesn't mean his libido is going to turn itself off. But it also doesn't mean that he's going to cheat on you. These are not real women that he's EVER going to meet, let alone have sex with.
You need to talk to him about it, and let him know that it's bothering you. I wouldn't ask him to stop, since personally, I think it's just a guy thing to look at porn. But he needs to know how it's making you feel, so that he doesn't wind up creating a rift between you two.
I'd rather have my guy at home, looking at porn, than sneaking off to strip clubs (where he CAN touch these women) because I won't allow porn in the house.
Good luck! I hope you guys can work out a compromise.
2006-11-29 10:41:22 · answer #3 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would guess that most porn stars don't look like you (and that's not a terrible thing). As long as he doesn't become obsessed with it or start looking at illegal porn, personally, I don't think it's a big deal. If you have a problem with it, maybe you need to ask him why he's looking at it. If you can talk about it, it probably won't become a huge issue later on.
2006-11-29 10:36:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, your fiancé will always find other women attractive. It's a fact of life, at least, for most people. However, that doesn't mean he doesn't love you, or that he would actually wants to be with any other woman but you. Can you honestly say that you are not physically attracted to any other man in the world? Maybe you can, but most people could not. That being said, still discuss it with your fiancé, and explain to him why it bothers you. Avoid being accusative though, and encourage a discussion, not an argument. Best of luck, and I wish you many years of happy marriage.
2006-11-29 10:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by Where the 'morrow lives 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Talk to him about it. I read porn is now the # 1 addiction for men. Like most addictions it starts small and before you know the person's life is consumed by it. I don't understand why guys who have a girl would rather look at porn than be with their girl but I read a lot of married guys are addicted to porn and hardly ever have sex with their wives. That seems really wierd and if I were the wife I would feel really bad about it.
2006-11-29 10:37:41 · answer #6 · answered by kayla j 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Does he know that you found it? If you found it in a less-than-honest way (i.e. hacking into his email) don't say anything. But, if it was just in the common files, mention it to him. See if this is a common thing for him, or if he just was lonely one night.
Guys looking at porn is normal. Guys even fantasizing is normal. It doesn't mean he would ever consider cheating on you. If you found this through honest means, then tell him that it bothers you....but be sure to listen to his side of things.
Good luck!
2006-11-29 10:35:50 · answer #7 · answered by Esma 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dont worry about it, most guys will find other women attractive, i had a problem with it too when i found my bf's stash but instead of making him feel bad about it by asking why i just suggested we get a new porn that we can both enjoy and watch it together, this way he wont do it behind your back and he can be more open with you.
2006-11-29 10:39:21 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_az_kandii 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hon ALL Men look at porn,,,there is nothing wrong with it,,i actually watched some last night with my man and let me tell you we had a good ole time after. You cant get mad at him for that,,,men are visual,,,thats what they do. Would you rather have him out cheating on you??? Just because he looks at porn doesnt mean he loves you any less!!! Cmon now. If he didnt find other women attractive wouldnt you think there was something wrong with him??? Please dont worry over something so trivial. Maybe you should watch it with him....he will be all over you and you WILL enjoy it ...trust me. Let yourself loose and let your freak side come out,,we all have one.
2006-11-29 10:37:54 · answer #9 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2006-11-30 00:06:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can find a guy who's not attracted to other women.... kudos. But more than likely you'll run into somehting like this with every guy. My boyfriend looks at porn. In fact a lot. And they all look like barely legal teens with little cheerleading outfits and catholic school girl skirts. Do I look like that? Hells no! But he's with me isn't he? And those girls wouldnt date him any way. No more than Brad Pitt would date me. It doesnt mean he's not attracted to you, too. Guys like a lot of types of girls. Try watching some with him.. he might like it, and also it wouldnt be something he had to hide from you anymore
2006-11-29 10:37:14 · answer #11 · answered by Smitten_Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋