Why do parents pull a child out of school when the child is doing well, has friend, and most of all is happy!! I just don't get it, why do that to a child when they are perfectly happy and don't want to leave school?
2006-11-29 10:31:03 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Home Schooling
To further explain: I was in public school until I was in third grade, and then my parents decided to hs, I didn't like the idea from the start, but I decided to give it a shot for a year, and I did, but I really wanted to go back to school. I asked repeatedly to go back, but my parents wouldn't let me. They said this is what was best for me, and that they wanted to be the ones to teach me, no matter what I thought. Nothing was wrong with my school, I was doing well, and I really loved to go, I just think I got jipped. I can't understand how this is what's best, when I was so unhappy. I just think parents should listen to their kids.
2006-11-30 08:40:05 · update #1
Why don't you ask your parents this question? How do you define "doing well"? Might be completely different from your parent's definition.
2006-11-29 10:36:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all, being happy right now is not the most important thing in life, despite what is highly lauded in the media.
Secondly, each set of parents will have a different reason. It may be that they had been thinking about homeschooling for a long time and have various reasons why they think it's better for their children than sending them to public school. They will also undoubtedly be much more aware of potential negative influences than the child will be. The child may find themselves totally happy, but the parents may be pulling their hair out trying to figure out what to do about the child's attitude problem at home. The child may be doing well, but the program may not actually be challenging enough for that child. The child might be happy, but the parents are feeling their family slowly drifiting apart at far too young of an age.
Frankly, the question sounds like something from a self-centred child. "Why would you move when *I'm* totally happy?" (Despite the fact that the parents lost their jobs and got jobs somewhere else or a parent got a highly desired job which requires the move and will turn out better for the family in the long run.) "Why would you say that I can't see those friends when they're my best friends?" (Despite the fact the parents saw the way they were dressed and the cigarettes they were passing around the other day.) "Why can't I have a boyfriend when you see how happy I am with him?" (Despite the fact the girl is only 12, the boy is 16 and has already got one girl pregnant...) Life should not revolve around what makes the kids happy. Kids are kids and do not usually see the bigger picture. They live in the here and now.
Back to the question, I have yet to meet a parent who has pulled their children without some sort of reason, but they all have different reasons. Sometimes the kids have been happy about it, other times they haven't. But even the kids who weren't happy about it had parents who were quite convinced it was the right thing to do--being able to see the bigger picture and all instead of being focus on just the 'right now'.
ADDED AFTER ADDITONAL DETAILS PROVIDED:
Amy, there a lots of kids who are unhappy in school yet their parents do not pull them out to homeschool them. Why not? Usually because they feel school is the best choice for them.
If your happiness resided entirely on being in public school, I would say there was a serious problem. Our happiness should never depend on some outside thing. Now, perhaps your parents did not make your homeschooling experience as good as it could have been. If so, that's a shame. However, you are old enough now to realize that you can choose how you will look at it all: you can stay in a rut and be resentful that you were 'jipped' in some way, or you can take the experience, learn from it as much as you can and decide to take the next step toward a better life. "Attitude is everything!" "Life is 20% what happens to us and 80% how we respond to it." You have a choice in your response, even now. You had a choice in your response, even back then. You chose to reject your parents over school.
2006-11-29 18:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by glurpy 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
why were you happy at school?
Answer that question seriously....was it because you were learning so much, or because you were able to hang out with friends?
How was your attitude? Were you snotty because your friends thought it was cool to treat your parents like crap? Were your involved in PDA instead of homework? If my kids acted like that, yeah, I wouldn't be so keen to send them back.
For all the people who think that high school socialization is so important, it's big impediment to advancing in your career because bosses don't like that nonsense, they want a serious worker, not a bunch of people who stand around the water cooler furtively glancing around to ensure their supervisor doesn't see them.
Can't you still see your friends when they get home from school? Or are your friends suddenly judging you as imperfect? If so, not very good friends, I'd go so far as to say bad socialization.
Sorry, sick of all the homeschool bashing lately. I truly would like to know why you're unhappy instead of just hearing whining that you are. Then maybe someone could help you come up with some tools to make your life happy. It's as easy as choosing to be happy.
By the way, I totally agree that parents should listen to their kids, but the flip side of that is listening to them. It's a two way road, and that's being mature.
2006-11-30 19:33:27 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im homeschooling my son for the 1st time this year, & I have noticed a HUGH improvment in my son. Parents know there children better then any school or teacher does. ALot of these teachers out there are only after the $$ they can make, not about how to teach a child, which is the way it should be.
We pulled him out becuase hes in special ed, & for 4 years this child STILL couldnt get past "see Dick run, see Jane run", since we are homeschooling him now, hes now up to a 3rd grade level. So see we as his parents are way better then ANY teacher in theschools. We know him better, then any damn school does, they dont know his likes, dislikes, we live with him 365 days a year, 7 days a week, 24/7. Does the teachers?? No they dont, our kids are just another damn paycheck for them.
His special ed teachers he HAD have no clue how to help the disabled at all. My son even had 1 tell him he was STUPID, when i asked her if this was true only to be told YES, I do this with all my students because kids need to listen TO ME & ONLY ME!
I took it over her head to the Superindentant, needless to say shes no longer a teacher!!!
SO see us parents know whats best for our kids, if your a parent you should understand, if not thats not good parenting, start knowing your child better. If your not a child, you shouldnt be asking us!!!
2006-11-29 22:45:03 · answer #4 · answered by Tammy F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean, pull a child out of school? Do you mean switching from public schooling to home schooling? Have you asked your parents why they are doing this? They must have some serious reasons for it, as homeschooling involves a lot more work for them than simply sending you off to school each day does. You need to talk with your parents, not mope around on the internet, to find out the answer to this question.
2006-11-29 23:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would have to ask your parents. There are different reasons to do this and the best way to find out why the case was in your situation is to go right to the source and ask your parents.
2006-11-29 18:40:30 · answer #6 · answered by Mariposa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking this on the home school board? Are you thinking that all home schooled kids get pulled out of school when they don't want to? If so, no comment.
2006-11-29 19:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by Nerds Rule! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you had kids, you'd understand.. :o) Maybe you do.. I don't know.. It's very hard to explain, especially in an email...
Most take them out because of bad influences.. that sounds like the problem in the case...
Bad company corrupts good morals...
2006-11-29 18:51:35 · answer #8 · answered by singingmom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You really do need to sit and calmly, honestly talk with them. Maybe it will help, if not, you tried. I hs my 10 yr. old, but she loves it. Either way, they are still your parents and it's ultimately their decision. It can't hurt to let them know how you feel. I hope you can straighten things out.
2006-11-30 21:35:23 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because their parent arent trusting their child and that makes them feel that the child needs gome schooling.
2006-11-29 20:41:40 · answer #10 · answered by unavailable 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋