Does anyone else think this way too?

Question

Ok, everytime I try to go after a crush [Cause the dumb a** is too stupid to get the point, or is too lazy.] It ends up badly, and I feel my worst. But when I'm around my friends, everything changes. I forget everything. Which I think is sort of weird, cause my friends didn't really make me forget everything before. I've given up looking recently, what's the point, when it's pointless. Right? Does anyone else think this way too? I'm not trying to be dramatic ppl, so save the smart a** comments, ok!

Answer 1

First off, if you are the one that has to approach him, maybe your looking in the wrong group of men. If he is too stupid, or too lazy to notice you, try someone else!
Secondly, ever notice when you are NOT looking for something, it's always around, like the car keys, or cell phone. As soon as you are looking for it, it's lost, where the #@%# did I put that.

Stop looking and it will find you!

Be yourself and the right one will approach you when he is ready.

Best wishes and good luck....hang in there kiddo, it will all work out for the best soon.

Answer 2

There's a way of looking at it. I've been there & done that as well. But I found the problem was (for me, maybe not for everyone) that I was looking too hard. If you step back and out of line; you'll see that having a man isn't mandintory and it's ok to be single for a while. Once I started to actually get out there and live (without looking), everything started to come together. Try just having fun for a while, and when you meet guys; think of them as new friends, not as your next potiential relationship. Once guys get to know you without the strings, one of them will certainly step up to the plate.

Answer 3

The good news is 'crushes' are just a passing thing. The come and go like the wind, and so what?
I know it's hard to wait for the real deal when the hormones are in overdrive...sigh...
Still, with any luck you will find some one really special and he will think your really special too:)
It is completely normal and standard to prefer the company of your friends to the company of some "dumb a*** and I would be grateful if I were you.

Answer 4

Let me get this right. You want a relationship with a guy your way. When it doen't work out you blame anyone other than yourself. Then use your friends as consolation but still don't feel right, right? Is there a chance there is something lacking in you?
In life you have to give and take. People instinctively suss out who is a giver, who is a taker and who is a user.

Answer 5

I suppose i think like that sometimes. I usually only think like that right after i get rejected. I try to just forget and have a good time. Sometimes i wonder "whats the point?" lol.

Answer 6

If your circle of friends helps you emotionally heal, than that is a great sign of wonderful friends! We all should be so lucky. And aren't you a little you to "give up" on love? Just take a break and make fabulous memories with your pals!

Answer 7

I have felt that way before and I gave up and that was when everything changed for me. I had guys all around me wanting to take me out. I think that when you act as though you don't care anymore it makes you more attractive.

Answer 8

The fact that you "forget" demonstrates that these are flimsy crushes which is JUST FINE for someone your age. Have all the crushes you want, have fun. Don't worry until you have a mortgage.

Answer 9

What a mixed up bunch of mumbo jumbo! I think you made the right choice in not looking, you really need to slow down and get your own thinking straight.

Answer 10

Ya know, I used to think that way when a bad relationship dumped me on my ***. It's really just a matter of waiting for the right person. I've found mine. I hope you can find yours. good luck!!