Should i stay with her??

Question

I have been with this girl for 2 months. I really like her and she really likes me, but i have never been in a relationship longer than a week before apart from 1 that i got hurt in, and i seem to start arguements for no reason, especially when im drunk, she is a great girlbut am i ruining my relationship on purpouse because i dont want 2 get hurt again or am i not meant 2 be in relationships?what should i do??

Answer 1

grow up? lol

Answer 2

Oh, everyone does this and if they say they dont they are lying! You put up an emotional wall and prevent things going further instead of running the risk of getting hurt! In a previous relationship I used to cause and argument when we were out drinking all the time and end it only to wake up the next morning and miss him! lol! silly eh! It is hard to break the habit but at least you recognise why you do it. The best thing to do is to speak to the girl your with and explain why you do it. You could run the risk of pushing her away if you dont tell her your concerns. If you communicate with eachother then you stand a better chance of staying together. You could be pushing away the woman of your dreams! My mam always used to say "you could spend half of your life looking for mr right, so you may as well have loads of fun with mr wrong in the meantime!"
Things could be perfect, but then again, if it does go wrong then you learn from every relationship and take it on to the next one! Good luck! xx

Answer 3

You had a difficult childhood, talk to her and explain how you feel, drinking or her seeing you drunk is not a great idea, let her get to know that you care and are capable of talking and being sensible and sober. Tell her you dont want to mess it up, and see how strongly she feels about you. Just agree to be good friends for a while if you are scared of loosing her, she may support you more as a friend, and stick around longer.

There is a girl for you out there somewhere believe me, take your time and enjoy socialising but not falling down drunk over her, or stressing about small things! Be yourself but respect her feelings on this relationship too, you are both in it!

Ask her how she really feels about you, talking is a great way to understand how others' tick!

Good luck my friend

Answer 4

boy, you are finding yourself making arguements to sabatage the relationship to hurt her before she can hurt you. Girls want to be loved, and they want you to love them in return. Arguing is not productive in keeping a nice girl who deserves to be cared for. If drinking makes you argue,its your fears all coming to the surface. We all get happy or sad when we drink.

You know booze isn't good for you when on a date so try drinking less or switch to a different one that makes you happy and not in a bad mood. Or better, take her places where no drinking is to be had. Movies and dinner is romantic. But mate, life is about having relationships and friendships. They either end nicely or badly or don't end at all and you stay friends forever or get married...However, part of having relationships is that at one point or another - we all get hurt. Its part of being human and growing up. We arn't robots......But, if you don't let the hurt affect your self esteem, then you will glide through breakups much easier. Just remember that people change their minds, people change their feelings. We all do over time.

So, enjoy relationships- be relaxed and enjoy her company - but if they end, then they end. There's loads of other girls out there waiting to date you. Don't waste time or crying over a girl who decides she wants to move on. Be kind to girls. They need love just like you. If she hurts you, then just make up your mind she isn 't worth feeling down about, put your nice jeans on, call your mates and go out again. We all go through it. Lots of times. We would be weird if we all had one partner from say, school days and never dated and broke up with anyone else ever and just married our first lover. No....thats boring. Don't be afraid of getting hurt. It will lead you to your final princess eventually. Just remember to treat people the way you want to be treated and thats the best you can do. x

Answer 5

Yeah Ur sabotaging, because Ur afraid of attachment.

Tell her about this and if she's really keen she will be gentle with u.

never make a decision for future happiness based on a bad experience.

You are denying urself love, why continnue to punish urself?

Answer 6

You sound quite young so if I were you don't be too serious and take things as they come. But do yourself and you girl a favour and calm down on the drink - if thats how you behave when your drunk you may well have a drink problem - be warned.

Answer 7

omg how old are you?!!??!?

WHY do u expect to be hurt again?
she obviously likes you alot and probably is a very very special person to have been so commited to you.

THINK about her feelings...what do you think...she would feel if you are hurting her just so that you wont be the one who is hurt 1st? because in the end you're gonna do twice the damage to urself

just carry on with this relationship.

Answer 8

i think you should try to tell her how you feel. ask her where she wants the relationship to go. have you thought that maybe she doesnt want to get hurt either. be honest with her. if you cant then end it dont string her along...good luck hope it works out for ya..

Answer 9

talk to her, let her know about your feelings and your doubts. Hopefully with time and experience with her your doubts will go away and you can develop the relationship into what you want it to be. The best thing is to let her know and let her make the decision if she want's to stay or not.

Answer 10

get out of the relationship,
she'll not like you if you continue being angry.
go see a councillor for a nice talk

Answer 11

Stop drinking. Ur sense of reality will then come into play.