am i so stupid?

Question

well let me give you the rest of the story now that i have your attention my boyfriend has bipolar disorder we have been together for five years and i knew he had the disorder before we got serrious. he had a bad episiode about a year and a half ago and i told him i would leave if he didt take his medicine like he was suppose to but today i learned that he stoped taking it and is in the middle of an episiode right now as i type he s told me he loves me but now he says he is not sure and i dont know what to do should i stay with him? i cant imagine living my life like this but i do love him and when times are good times are good and when they are bad they are supper bad what do you think please be honest thanks

Answer 1

I would go ahead and leave him. It is easier to get over a heart break than someone doing breaking you up.

Coach

Answer 2

My brother was bipolar and never wanted to take his meds. However, when he didn't, he could be dangerous. He didn't want to take his meds because he was too proud to and wanted to do things on his own. My family finally found a solution to the problem. turns out that even though the tests didn't show that he was deficient, When he took vitamin-b and folic acid he did awsome and slowly got off his prescription. I'm not suggesting that your bf should get off of his medicine but my brother was able to and he takes his vitamins because that is something that everyone needs and it doesn't make them feel like they are depending on a pill to make them act in a way that they don't feel is really them. The great thing about it is that after you've been taking the vitamins for a while, you can skip once in a while without problems. Once again, I'm NOT suggesting your boyfriend get off his meds on his own, I just want you to know that there is hope even for someone who won't take their meds. However, If things are dangerous don't stick around until he has had help and is on his medicine and if he does take the vitamins, he should not stop taking his medicine for several months while he's taking the vitamins and a Dr. evaluates him and says he can get off of them.

Answer 3

So many people with bipolar disorder do not stay on their medicine. The reason being that they feel it limits their flow of creativity during the "good times". Living with someone who has bipolar and goes on and off their medication is very difficult. Life will always be like a rocky roller coaster ride. I had a very close friend for many years who I loved dearly. We had such great "good times" together. She was very funny, smart and creative. I saw her through some of her "bad times", and they were pretty bad; but I didn't live with her, she was just a close friend, so I was able to take breaks from her. Her husband did end up not being able to take it any more and left with the 3 children. Later, I too had to break off our friendship, because her paranoia (which is always a symptom of bipolar) was interfering with the happiness of my life. It's a hard decision when you love someone. I would say that eventually you will have to leave in order to save your own life unless you see a definite commitment on his part to stay on his medication and lead a more balanced life. He needs to be convinced that leading a balanced life does not mean it will be dull. Many bipolar people are addicted to the high "good times" of their illness. They need to know that a smooth sailing life can have its good times too.

Answer 4

The first thing you have to do is get him out of the manic episode and also out of a deppressive episode, which means, you have to get him back on his meds. This may mean that he needs to be hospitalized. If he is unwilling to sign himself in, you may have to see that he gets put in against his will and since you're not his wife, you're going to have to probably enlist the help of his family. It wouldn't be fair to make any decisions now with him in a manic episode so wait until he's stable. Find out if there's a reason why he doesn't like to take his meds, like a nasty side effect. If this is the case, consult the doctor about other medication options. If he's just being irresponsible, you may have to "force it down his throat" not literally but by giving it to him every day. I don't know if you want a responsibility like that but it may be what he needs. People with bipolar disorder tend to like the way they feel when they're in a manic state. They feel like they get a lot accomplished and don't need a lot of rest. When he comes down, he's likely to become so depressed that he contemplates or attempts suicide, or is unable to get up out of bed and take care of his own needs. The key here, I think, is getting him stable and seeing that he stays stable. You know how you feel about him, if you're committed, part of the deal is that you stick by someone in sickness and in health, bipolar is a sickness. Even though you threatened to leave him if he quit taking his meds again, that's really not going to mean anything to him at this point, you need to help him get stable.

Answer 5

well, for one thing everyone has problems. So, you can dump this guy, but then who knows what the next guy's problem will be. Maybe he'll hit you, or be secretly addicted to heroin, or screwing your best friend behind your back. You just never know. So, you'll deal with something with anyone you're with. This guy you're dealing with his psychological problems, which is no picnic I'm sure. Two points can be made here 1: he needs someone in his life who really loves him to help him through this. 2: If his problems are more then you can handle you gotta get out of there. But if it were you, and you were the one who really needed him to be there for you while you went through this... would he stay? His problems are probably going to be lifelong even if he does take his medications. I guess you just have to decide if you're going to stand by him and help him through it, or if you're going to turn tale and run.

Answer 6

Stay and help him through this.
People who are often sick dont like to depend on others and dont admit that they need help since they arent used to it and become grumpier than ever. Put yourself in his shoes and imagine how you would reacted in such situations.
I think he deserves love now, not threatening. Tell him you need him to be fine because you love him.
He is having a hard time adjusting, give him a little space to accept this and give urself time to accept him.
Show more affection towards him and be there for him.
There is nothing you cant win with so much love.
After that see what is there and decide.

Good luck.

Answer 7

I have a sister in-law who is bipolar so I know what you are going through I feel for you it can be very hard at times. My advice to you is that you sit down with him and voice your concern preferable when he is on a low cycle because he is suffering and more willing to make changes. Flat out tell him that if he loves you then he will take his medications like he is supposed to other wise you can not handle it. Trust me you must threaten sometimes to get results and they will change this is what my brother had to do. Good luck and if he is not willing to change for you then I think it is time for you to make some changes.

Answer 8

Try to see past his condition, it's really difficult to control your emotions and sometimes even your own actions when you have a disorder like your boyfriend's. At the same time your boyfriend has to learn ways to overcome stressful situations and ways to keep things OK with you even if he does such a condition. Try to talk to him some more and really understand him. Don't give up on him.

Answer 9

If you think you can live with the disorder for the rest of your life and don't mind raising kids with him then stay with him. Also find out why he does not like taking his meds, maybe there is a side effect to it that bothers him.

Answer 10

Yes, you are stupid. Reason? Saw one of your other questions, where you wanted to download free music. Thats theft. Stealing is stupid. You want to steal. That makes you stupid.


Long Live Jambi

Answer 11

Remember you know yourself better than anyone else.. Truly only YOU can give yourself the answer... If you take responsibility for making the decision think how en powered you would feel.. I wish both you and your bf luck...