What do you really mean when you say you need your space? Does that mean you are not interested? Or does it just simply means that you don't want to be "smothered by the other person?"
2006-11-29 09:35:51 · 19 answers · asked by Light Bringer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It could be both depending on the person. it could either mean "I don't really want to be with you anymore, but I'm too nice to say it so I'm just going to say I need space and then date someone else without really breaking up with you and just hope you get the hint"
OR
maybe you are being to clingy and they just need you to take a step back. they just need you to chill while they get used to having someone around so much.
plus you also have to keep in mind what's going on in their life other than you. if something else is bothering them, they may just want space, not neccissarily from you, but from the world period till they figure things out.
whatever the situation. take a step back. chill. and whatever you do... let them be. the more you push, the farther they'll pull from you.
hope I've been helpful!
2006-11-29 09:40:55 · answer #1 · answered by .:*giggles*:. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends entirely on the person and the personal situation - I used this when I feet more like a "mommy" than a girlfriend and when I was in need of personal space when a BF was demanding daily attention. Sometimes it's nice to be needed and sometimes it's nice to be smothered but not every minute and not everyday. Space is very important it helps clear the mind and make better and less rash decisions. If she needs space give it to her and take some time to see for yourself if this relationship is healthy. Good Luck!
2006-11-29 17:43:44 · answer #2 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right with both answers. Either the woman feels smothered, or she is not interested and doesn't wanna hurt your feelings by saying just that. Sadly, we also use the "I need more space" excuse when we wanna date other people. All in all, it's not a positive thing. So, if someone says that to you, give them their "needed space" and move on.
2006-11-29 17:39:58 · answer #3 · answered by aslgirl143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how we say it...sometimes it means we just need some space to get thing together (in our heads), sometimes it means we just need to spend time with our friends (so they don't feel like we've abandoned them, and we miss them as well), other times it means we don't want to be smothered or we have important things we need to get done due to procrastination because we've had such a good time spending time the other person.
2006-11-29 17:46:31 · answer #4 · answered by pheobe920 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It actually can be either. However, there is a rule I follow I call the "Rule of Contact"...
It goes like this - you contact her, phone, email, text whatever. But then she must contact you the next time. Then you contact her. Then she contacts you.
So one day you contact her, and if she wants to talk to you again, she will contact you. Following that rule, you know if she wants space or isnt interested. BUT
Contact the girl soonish or something. Just say that you will respect her need for "space" (but take out the ") and that she knows where you are.
If she gets back to you eventually, like once her space needing time is over, then she is interested and was genuine in wanting space. If she nevers get back she wasnt interested.
By leaving the ball in her court its easier to know what she wants, according to when she contacts you.
Hope this helps, so, I dont know if this peticular girl wants space or isnt interested, but if you contact her soon, so you can start the "Rule of Contact" you may well find out.
2006-11-29 17:42:40 · answer #5 · answered by QQZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well needing space to me means that I still like you, just not as much as before. I feel like I am being smothered and need room to breathe. Needless to say, yes it means that Iwould rather have a casual relationship. Nothing serious as it was.
2006-11-29 17:39:55 · answer #6 · answered by sea shell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have told men that I need my space so this is just me. To me when you tell your man you need your space, you are simply saying I need some "Me" time. I have noticed in my relationships if it is really intense right from the beginning this is when I start feeling like I am neglecting myself and my other relationships with family and friends, my work, my house and my pets. It means why don't we just take a breather and regroup. It doesn't mean that the feelings for you have changed at least it didn't with me. Bottomline, I just needed to catch up with me and my own life for awhile and if he cares for you he will understand. : D
2006-11-29 17:46:38 · answer #7 · answered by rhythmoftheblues 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it defintely doesn't mean that their not interested. It just means that you are smothering them and they need some time to theirselves to just like hang out with the girls or do something alone. Thats all. No worries!!
2006-11-29 17:40:55 · answer #8 · answered by Nikki E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation:
It could mean, "Please stop smothering me...I dont want to see you every waking hour of my existance! Let me breathe a little."
or it could mean:
"I want time to think over possibly breaking up with you."
Everyone needs their space...girl or boy. People may love you to death, but they dont want to see you all the time.
2006-11-29 17:38:33 · answer #9 · answered by bluestar_dreamsx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it just means that we really cant handle a relationship right now. In the situation, it usually comes up when you may just be looking for another guy..just not to sure on what life is going to bring you.
2006-11-29 17:39:13 · answer #10 · answered by yougirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋