I told my story on here to a guy asking about his teenage daughter and wonder sometimes how it turned out for them.. was a de-ja-vu thing.. is it rude to ask?
2006-11-29 09:33:45 · 11 answers · asked by 2sweet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No it's not rude to ask in my opinion. The guy could always not reply if it is upsetting. Perhaps you really really helped him with your answer and he would be very grateful. I think you should ask and then you can satisfy your curiousity because until you do, it is going to niggling away at you.
2006-11-29 09:37:38 · answer #1 · answered by Stephen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's crazy! She's really expecting to get a whole lot of something for a whole lot of nothing! She doesn't even have to give out favours to the guests. That is an extraneous expense lots of weddings indulge in that is not required at all. And in this case, she's literally not giving the guests favours, YOU are, if you decide to go forward with this. I think she has no concept of how time consuming this project will be, and what the cost is. If she does know, then she is just desperately grasping around to fill in the gaps she left until the last minute and no longer has the funds for. As a wedding guest, and a friend, you aren't obligated to do anything except show up and bring a gift. If the cake would be in lieu of the gift, and you could make it within the same budget that you would have spent on her gift, then that would be somewhat fair. She should have had others that are in her wedding party work on the favours, or order them ready made. I have three children running around, and it's all I can do to keep up with their feeding time and keeping the house reasonably neat and clean. No way would you catch me making hand made icing roses and a four tier cake for nothing. A cake that size professionally done would minimally be $200. You're not rude to turn her down. She might freak out at first because she's going to have to solve her problem the regular way. By paying for it, not relying on the generosity of friends and putting them in an awkward position. Bad behavior on her part, not yours.
2016-05-23 03:02:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get e-mails sometimes from people following up. If the person has their "contact me" checked, you can send them a personal note telling him that you hope it all worked out and letting him know that there are people out there who care. If he doesn't want to share the info, he won't respond. No harm, no foul. Nice thought :)
2006-11-29 09:41:22 · answer #3 · answered by tagi_65 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope not because I feel the same way. I'd love to know how things worked out for the people who posted questions. I wonder how we could find out. Any suggestions?????????
2006-11-29 09:39:08 · answer #4 · answered by Penny Mae 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its not rude. They dont have to tell you if they dont want to. Id sure like to know if people took my advice and how things went.
2006-11-29 09:38:17 · answer #5 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not rude at all. Just be polite and respectful as you have been here.
2006-11-29 18:42:44 · answer #6 · answered by The Mad Shillelagh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt it...
You might want to drop a line wishing them well, and hope that the asker responds with news, if you're uncomfortable.
2006-11-29 09:36:42 · answer #7 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it would not because other people may want to find out as well
2006-11-29 09:37:17 · answer #8 · answered by M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it would be rude. It would only show that you care.
2006-11-29 09:37:17 · answer #9 · answered by kj 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I dont think it would be rude.
2006-11-29 09:36:35 · answer #10 · answered by mudd_grip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋