my son is 14 in the 10th grade...constantly cuts class...failed 4 out of 6 classes...and often gets suspended...and recently found out he smokes marijuana...
2006-11-29 09:23:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Other people should view this guys other questions-
His last question was how to wash of the smell or marijuanaa of HIS hands...please!!!!! - this guy is looking for "points"....maybe others are too- but I don't think he should actually waste THOUGHTFUL people's time.
DO NOT waste your time answering this one....clearly , it IS a lie- and one that was not well thought out.
IF it is not a lie than my advice would be to stop doing drugs yourself and shape up yourself!
2006-11-29 09:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by momof3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.
Okay, maybe you need to try an eye-opening tactic. Take him to somebody who has only a bare minimum of education. Ask that person to talk to your son about how it's crucial to get further education, all the while emphasizing the limitations of not getting it by giving examples.
If that doesn't help, you have to take away pleasures. You're the parent, thus you should wield control until your son is 18,
2006-11-29 17:27:10 · answer #2 · answered by bansri47 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send him to boot camp
or even see if they are like rehabs in the area that also serve as a school. but if you want to take it into your own hands then take all the stuff away that he does for fun and make him have nothing
also tell him that you are the parent and you dont want to see your son going to prison later on in life and not have a wasted life.
tell him that you want him to grow up and have a nice job and have a family. make sure whatever you say comes from your heart. also make sure that whatever you say he pays attention and realizes that you want what is best for him later on down the road. also if you can like tell him that if he passes all of his classes and doesnt fail a single one that he can have so much money
i hope this helped u out as much as you wanted!!!!
2006-11-29 18:34:54 · answer #3 · answered by Caitlin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a son,, hes 14,,,grade 9,,,, it would be very hard,,,, and probably reading everyones answers will confuse you even more,,,,but if it was my son I would sit him down,,,, talk to him,,,, NOT blow up at him,,, NOT give him the,,,"when I was your age thing",,,,but really listen to him,,,,,something upsetting him,,, or worrying him may seem sooo simple or "stupid" to us but to him its a big thing,,, it may even be peer pressure,,, Im 42,, when I was in highschool it was hard,,,you had to "go with the flow" or you were beat up,,,, now a days its even worse,,, kids are sooooooo pressured into skipping class,, smoking,, doing pot,, and tons of other things,,,,but if he knows your on his side,,,ALWAYS on his side,,it may be easier to deal with things,,, not that you agree with what hes doing,,, of course your "disappointed" in his behaviour,,, but together figure out why its happening,,,,and together figure out how to deal with it,,, let him suggest things too,,,,,,dont give up on him,,, help him,,,its not easy being a parent,,, its HARD work,,,, and as a parent we "signed up for it when we got pregnant",, its a life commitment,,some things good,, some bad,,, know that your not alone in it,,,, find someone YOU can talk to also,,, someone to suport you,,, (sons dad),, if hes not around that may be some of the problem,,, if I took my sons dad out of his life,,, it would have a BIGGGG negative impact on him,,,,talk to your son,,, be honest and open,, tell him you dont really know what to do if you really dont,,,your human,,, figure things out together,,, good luck,,,
2006-11-29 17:43:35 · answer #4 · answered by sHyGaL 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm, tough situation and time for some real tough love. he still MIGHT be young enough to control. Talk to his councilors..see if there are any programs you can get him into...do everything you can to turn him around.
he might just be a little depressed too..pretty common at that age..maybe he just needs some positive male (or female for that matter) influences in his life.
2006-11-29 17:28:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, since he's already going that way, let him get arrested. Does he have his drugs in your house? If so, YOU'LL be the one who gets in trouble.
Try that tough love stuff. I heard it really works, but it takes a lot of work. They have chapters everywhere. You could look on line and see if there are any near you.
2006-11-29 17:30:38 · answer #6 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have a 14 year old son. he had failed third grade. know he is in 8th grade. if my son were ever to do that i would take away his stuff. like cell phone, computer acces, tv, video games, and stuff he uses for fun.
2006-11-29 17:42:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
speak to his guidance counselor about getting him into a school for troubled children. Do it soon or the responsibility is yours. In Pennsylvania you as the parent can go to jail because your kid skips school. I've been there.
2006-11-29 17:29:01 · answer #8 · answered by Real Beotch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a tough one there is a reason he acts out find it and youll fix it unfortunatly the answer is not on this web site
2006-11-29 17:25:52 · answer #9 · answered by jeremylippens 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your local police and ask their advice. They may have a program for juveniles at risk.
2006-11-29 17:27:37 · answer #10 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋