I have met a guy and been on a couple of dates with him. On the 2nd date i slept with him - he was txting me all day after it. Then i saw him again and it was as if he just wanted sex. He txt me again the next day but since then has not been in touch,(has been a week) i feel slightly daft. I may be being paranoid or is he just not interested in me except for sex. Something felt wrong and impersonal the last time i saw him and we were speaking most days until the last time i saw him.
Should i get in touch with him?
2006-11-29 09:21:41 · 37 answers · asked by lady.x 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
mmm...first of all. Sorry to hear about your problem. And i got bad news...seems like he only wanted u for sex. But I'm still a bit unsure (because if he only wanted you for sex, he wouldn't keep txting you the next day)
You should definitely get in touch with him and find out what's going on. And if he wants sex again, its entirely up to u. If u don't want it, walk away and move on.
2006-11-29 09:33:12 · answer #1 · answered by perfectly_messy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eek, I am in exactly the same situation as you so I was interested in your answers. A few weeks ago I slept with a guy I've fancied for years and he seemed really into me at the time but we only saw each other a few times before he seemed to lose interest. He says he doesn't want a big heavy relationship when I ask him but I don't either. He says it's nothing I've done wrong and that I'm amazing but he still doesn't get in touch at all and I wish he would because I really really like him. All I can think to do is ignore him and try to move on because it seems as though all he wants is sex. I may see him again but if not I'll try not to be too hurt and concentrate on finding someone who I have a better feeling about. It's such a shame though because he really is so wonderful and I think we could have lots of fun. Unfortunately I think I've blown it but I couldn't have resisted the sex if I'd tried. I liked the answer about remembering the good memory but moving on and I sympathise with you, I hope your situation turns out for the best. It's a cruel world isn't it?
2006-11-29 09:38:24 · answer #2 · answered by Katie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave him alone. You slept with him very early on in your relationship. Granted, it wasn't the first date, but the second really isn't so far beyond the first that it makes a big difference. Guys are funny like that--once you sleep with them too early, they cease to see you as a full, three-dimensional person and see you only as a sex partner. The reason I know this is because I hear it from guys all the time. Their reasoning usually is something like, if I got it this easily, anyone could. Once they feel that way about you, they'll never be serious about you as arelationship.
He was probably texting you the next day because he was pleased with having sex and wanted that again, but nothing else. That's why he hasn't been in contact much, and is impersonal toward you. Please look at this as a learning experience and move on.
2006-11-29 09:27:56 · answer #3 · answered by julz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, leave him alone. He got what he wanted and now when you do not give it up, he will get upset and move on to his next target. If it is anything else but sex, he will come back on his own and you need to not sleep with him for a long time. If he stays, then he may be real, but if he leaves because he is not getting any, you see what he is after. Do not get in touch with him, once you do, he has won and you will have lost any control of the situation. Do not play the game, he is after only one thing and if he does not get it from you, he will only go find it someplace else.
2006-11-29 09:26:16 · answer #4 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This pretty much happened to me...
I got with a guy at a club, and we went back to his. We didnt sleep together and I thought I'd ruined things by not being more forward, then in the morning he left for work but got my number off his friend and was texting me all day, and all the next day, and he got me sending all sorts of pics to him, but he never receiprocated, until the texts stopped after 2 days.
There was no reason for it that I could see and it was sudden.
I couldn't get over him for a week or two and it was hard havign the control not to text him, but eventually I realised he was a pr*ck and now we're actually good friends (about 2 years on)...
Just forget it, I know it's hard but before long you'll see clear and realise you made yourself vulnerable, adn know not to do it again.
Take care
2006-11-29 22:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by Lola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends...
Were you the last person to text/phone? If so, then I'd walk away with my self-confindence intact, and the memories of a good night.
If you really must get in touch with him then I'd phone and leave him a message (if he doesn't answer) just saying "When you get this give me a call".
At the end of the day, it was a couple of dates. Maybe he does just want sex...it's probably better you found out now.
Pretty shite though, so I'm sorry for you.
2006-11-29 09:27:05 · answer #6 · answered by Mango M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sure sounds to me like he's only interested in you for the sex. Slow the dating and the sex way down. Don't be surprised if he stops texting you, but if he's happy seeing you for a couple of dates without getting any then you can stop being paranoid.
2006-11-29 09:25:55 · answer #7 · answered by hobbes84k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say make one more attempt to get back in touch with him and if he doesn’t respond to you after that, then you probably should expect that that means he’s not interested in furthering the relationship with you. Unfortunately there men out there who only want sex. But if that’s the case, then you probably dodged a big bullet by figuring it out early on in the relationship. Good luck.
2006-11-29 09:36:50 · answer #8 · answered by Jocelyn L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl that guy is only interested in sex..........he got what he wanted.
Forget about him.One good advice........... try not to sleep with a guy on the 2nd date again, that is if you decided to start dating again. Maybe because you did,you gave him the impression that you wanted only sex.I hope you view this as a once in a life time mistake
All the best!!!!
2006-11-29 09:28:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but you slept with him too quick.It sounds like he put you in the sex only catagory and doesnt think of you as being girlfriend potential.It sucks and its not fair but thats the way men are.I wouldnt call him , if he wants to see you he will call.If you do go out again dont sleep with him and see how he acts, good luck
2006-11-29 09:31:40 · answer #10 · answered by nyc88m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋