I have a 7 year old son that has been having behavior problems at school, he has been suspended several times?

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been having behavior problems at school, he has been suspended several times this year. I have lost my job due to my attendance because i had to leave work to pick him up and stay with him during the suspensions. He is no longer attending the school as they have gotten him a tutor for 1-2 hours a day, i have to transport him to this. Does anyone know of any assistance to help me since i cant have a job at this time? I am a single mother of 3.

I have a 7year old sont that has been suspended from school several times this year. He is no longer in regular school, they have gotten him a tutor that he goes to for 1-2 hours a day. I am no longer able to work because I was having to leave my job daily to go to the school, so they let me go. I have been taking my son to see a psychologist and he has been diagnosed with ADHD and ODD. I was wondering if anyone knew of any assistance that is available since i am unable to work at this time. I am a single mother of 3.

Answer 1

Contact social services and ask to speak someone about assistance. Maybe they could direct you to somewhere you can get some counseling for your son, too. It sounds like he is acting out because he doesn't know how to deal with something he has going on. Maybe it's anxiety related issues, maybe it's a vision or hearing issue, maybe it's a social phobia issue, maybe he is having difficulty learning something, maybe he is reacting to issues between you and your partner, maybe he has been hurt or traumatized by someone, maybe he is dealing with a school bully, or maybe something you could never have predicted.
Kids don't have the vocabulary to talk about their troubles, so they react by using the immature few coping skills they have, and their limited judment and limited wisdom.
Whatever the case, it's not just his problem, but your whole famly's problem. You can't just cart him off to the doc and say "here, fix him" without having an additional session with the family, ot splitting the time for him and a counselor, and the whole family with the counselor. That way he wouldn't feel so singled out, labled, and you could show him with your behavior that you want to be a part of the solution, that you need to learn how to help him.
I feel for your situation, taking on the roles of a single mom (each child is like 2 full time jobs), and working when you can. You don't have any time leftover to be the woman you were, before you became a partner and a mother.
Do you belong to a church nearby? If you have no particular religious persuasions, I would recommend that you visit a Unitarian Universalist Fellowship (look online for a location). There are many programs that they offer that could help you finally get some time to yourself. A UU fellowship has no particular religious faith, doctrine, or creed. They will not seek to convert anyone to anything. All are welcome regardless of faith or background. You are encouraged to ask questions and seek your own truths. No one preaches or reads the bible for you (many UU's are agnostic or aethiest, though not all). It is merely a community of friends from all walks of life.
They say it takes a village to raise a child......well.....maybe. But a community that welcomes everyone could really be something you could use right now. It would be good for you and for your kids.
One thing that gets lost in the shuffle when women get married (or have a domestic partnership) and have kids, is the woman they are. Women are strong, resiliant, and complex. We are biologically pre-programmed to be the source of stability for the entire family, taking care of everyone's need (sometimes at the expense of our own).
It would be wise for you to take care of yourself, so you can handle all of the other responsibillities, obligations, obstacles, and opportunities you face. When you get overwhelmed with challenges, you need to ask for help so you can take care of yourself.
Your son may possibly be reacting to your stressload. kids tend to think that they are the cause of things, and that they should be able to control everything. That's kids. They just do that. They feel responsible for your emotions, as if they were the cause. And sometimes they act out and actually become the cause.
I wish you the best and I hope that you get some good feedback from those that read your question. After I am done typing, I will see if anyone has posted responses yet.
Take care of yourself (MAKE time to!) and you will be able to see the opportunities hiding behind each obstacle or challenge.

Answer 2

At 7 years old he has been suspended several times? That is a big problem. One that really needs to involve professional help. Have him evaluated by a psychiatrist. He may have a learning disability that makes it difficult for him to behave. Since you are out of work, you have plenty of time to spend with him. Become his teacher. Take him on "field trips" to the local museums and the library. Help him to learn everything he can while he is home with you. If he behaves well for you and not in school, consider homeschooling him. There is a lot of information on homeschooling under the education category. You can read both positive and negative opinions on the subject. Also, look for homeschooling groups in your area. I'm sure you will be able to join while your son is on suspension for a trial basis.

It's tough being a single mother and if you have family near by, ask them for help. Maybe there are other single mothers in the area who are in a similar situation. By joining together you can take turns with child care and educational duties.

Feel free to email me if you want to discuss this further.

Answer 3

POSSIBLE SYMPTONS OF FOOD INTOLERENCE
Mood: Mood swings, Premenstrual tension, Grizzly or unhappy, Cries easily or often, Irritable, Uncooperative Oppositional defiance: ODD, Loses temper, Argumentative, Refuses requests, Defies rules, Deliberately annoys others, Blames others for own mistakes, Touchy, easily annoyed, Angry, resentful Other behaviour: ADHD, ADD, Autism, Aspergers, Inattentive, easily bored, unmotivated, Restless, fidgety or overactive, Head banging, Fights with siblings, Difficulty making friends, Destructive, aggressive, Unreasonable, Demanding, never satisfied, Disruptive, Discipline is ineffective

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Answer 4

you need a communication book witht he teacher that she fills in everyday to go home with him. It can work both ways. If anything has happened at home you can write it in so she knows what is happening. I twould also be worth getting a psychologist involved to help him learn how to deal with anger issues and how to deal when he is frustrated

Answer 5

All I have to say is any other parent will beat his butt. He must get away with stuff at home.