Isn't my mom too worried about modesty?

Question

I'm 13, my mom is really wonderful but too worried about modesty. I have nice clothes, I always look cute, but I have some friends my age who are allowed to show a bit more of their bodies. One of mom's law is I alwyas have to wear a bra even when it's hot and in Australia its hot. She's inflexible about this, and my bras must give proper coverage and no see through, because she thinks support is important and doesn't want me to be decently dressed. Bras ometimes suck. Sometimes I complain, tell her some of my friends mom's are less strict about their bras but mom just say something like Maybe hun, Im' your mom, love you, worry about you and that's how it's gonna be at least while you're under my roof. I know it's out of love, I don't fight, don't disobey and of course I won't leave home because of this, but isn't she too strict?

Answer 1

No! She is looking out for you and cares for you, and you are right to respect her and obey her even if you don't agree at times.

Answer 2

Well, I do sympathize with you because I have always hated wearing bras and I always go without a bra whenever possible - for example, if my blouses are not tight fitting, not see through, definitely no bra.

I also live in a country where it's hot and it is uncomfortable to wear a bra, but when I feel it is necessary to wear a bra, I will do so despite my discomfort and whenever, I can go bra-less without feeling that I am showing anything, I do that as well.

However, since you are only 13, you really do have to listen to your mother. Believe me, your mother loves you and she only wants what is best for you. She is acting in your best interests only. Also, when you live with your mother, you do have to follow her rules. That's just the way it is - your mother is your guardian - she is responsible for your well-being and so she gets to make the decisions on your behalf.

However, when you are older and leave home, you can decide if and when you will wear a bra. Then you will be responsible for your own life and can make your own decisions.

Answer 3

And when some of your bra less friends come out pregnant at a young age cause guys look at them more, you will understand why your mother is being so strict. And as your growing up and see how much more respect you get from guys for being modest, and how some of your friends go throw a guy every other week, you will think your mother for making you modest.

Answer 4

Well -- If you want an opinion from a grandma ( yeah! I know! "Things were different when you were my age") When I was 18 and wearing shorts that my dad considered too short ( by today's standards they would have been very modest) He told me "If you're not selling -- don't advertise!"

I think that is what your mother is thinking. And, as long as you live under her roof, you should abide by the rules. You may find that the other girls, whose parents are not as strict, get into trouble in the future because the boys will think less of them.

Answer 5

I can't say that your mom is being to strict but can say that she is doing what she believes to be morally and ethically correct thing for her daughter to do. I certain that you would agree that some of your friends probably dress inappropriate for their ages and so she doesn't want her daughter doing the same. On top of that when you are a little older and a parent yourself you will come to respect these decisions that your mom has placed on you at present (although they may be a pain in rear right now) and will in all probability act the same way if you have daughters of your own. Be grateful that your mom is trying to help you become a nice young woman and that she is as active in your live as she is. There are lots of other young girls who would give their eye teeth to have a mom as loving and involved in their lives as your mom is in yours.

Answer 6

No. Your mother is looking out for you. At 13, trust me, NOBODY wants to see your body exposed. It's not right, and it's disturbing.

As for the bra issue. Were one. Trust me. Support is good! Do you want breasts down to your knees? The earlier you get a jump on support the longer it will take for your breasts to sag. You may want to consider a sports bra, they allow freedom of movement more than the standard bra.

Answer 7

your mother is just being cautious about everyday life. many young girls now days think that their parents are to strict, but in fact the parents really don't care now days. I am very glad that my parents were very strict., of course you think that they hate you at that age. I married when I was 16.I thought my parents where to strict. and now I have a 14 yr old. He has rules and they are very open minded and somewhat strict. Guys are going to get a different opinion about you whether you are very young. men don't really care that you are 13 if they think you are hot they will try to date you, and tell you you are pretty. DON'T believe them. and please listen to your mom , she knows what she's talking about.

Answer 8

No she is not too strict. She knows how boys think and she is doing the right thing. If she feels no bra is bad then its bad.

Answer 9

She is being a good mom. She doesn't want you looking inappropriate for your age. Give your mom a hug and know that she isn't doing this to irritate you, she is protecting you.

Answer 10

She is concerned about the way other people perceive you. Especially boys and men. Just respect her until you are old enough to do what you want without going against her wishes.

Answer 11

Wearing a bra is something we must all do when we get boobs. Get a life little girl. And stop compiling about it. Just wear them. It is no big deal. It gets hot here in California and women and teens wear bras. Get use to it and grow up.