before he met me, my boyfriend was suicidal and into drugs, i'm kind of like his support system and i'm really all he has. although i do love him a lot, i really want to go away to school. i don't think it would be smart to let him hold me back from going to my dream school. i'm afriad that i'll be letting him down by leaving him and don't want him getting back into those bad habits. i don't want him to think im going away because i don't wanna be with him or anything..what should i do?
2006-11-29 09:06:07 · 7 answers · asked by MissingLI21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do what you need to do for you. He has to fight his own demons. They are defeated if he realize and walk in his deliverance instead of counting on you to stay sober. He doesn't know but he needs you leave so that his strength can be renewed and stand on his own. Whether you stay or not, it's just a matter of time before he has to truly face it. The decision is his. You just live your life and pray for him. Don't let him give you a guilt trip.
2006-11-29 09:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by kyle g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that you are going away, but not going away from him. You can still remain close with this guy, give him the support he needs, and persue your dreams. These things are not mutually exclusive. Don't let his past problems affect your future. Tell him that you are concerned about him, and you still care for him a great deal. If this relationship is meant to be, you will find that you can remain close to him event though you physically far apart. However, if you do go away, and he does start using again and becoming suicidal, it is in NO WAY your fault. Good luck at school.....
2006-11-29 09:10:53 · answer #2 · answered by captainkirkwood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest and upfront with him. He needs to maybe consider doing that also. Get that education while you're young, because when you get my age, it's that much more harder. Trust me when I say this. If he don't accept that, well, you don't need to put your life on hold for him. It seems to be that you have some goals in your life that you want to achieve, and that is good. He should consider that also. If something would happen that would be bad (meaning about your boyfriend), don't feel bad, it won't be your fault. Everyone has free will, so just be honest with him, and hopefully he'll understand. Best of luck to you in the future.
2006-11-29 09:19:24 · answer #3 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly have a son that died from drugs & i think of your boyfriend is quite sensible. My different son has a pal who had enormous objectives & did no longer circulate out & get his education & now he's a 30 12 months that's no the place close to at my son's point of success. i do no longer understand how youthful you're, no longer that it concerns. education is the commencing up. in case you quite love him you may nicely be a protracted distance individual reason love is conscious no distance. I nevertheless experience love for my son that died it did no longer substitute reason i do no longer see him interior the actual typical. in case you may circulate to St. Croix then circulate, why would desire to he be the single that has to make the sacrifice. you may continually come back domicile. enable him circulate in case you love him & in case you do unlike him enable him circulate.
2016-10-13 09:21:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should bring it up slowly and not to sutle.Then if you think hes going to be ok then tell him but do it in a way that he will know that you will miss him and be back.
2006-11-29 09:10:29 · answer #5 · answered by LilMissH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he's a retard he should know that you're gonna go to college some day.....
Just go to frickin' college and tell him "I need to do this for myself".
2006-11-29 09:09:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let him know maybe he would be agree to come along
2006-11-29 09:09:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋