i have hated him and my step dad saids that i killed him becuse i was i bad kid and i know i did not im 13 wate do i do i do not know wate to do ?
2006-11-29 08:59:27 · 14 answers · asked by kayraegirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to ignore your s/f completely. Does your mother know he speaks like this to you? If she does, then she's not parenting you very well.
Seek out a counselor at school, honey. You did not kill your father. People who commit suicide do so for many reasons, but *never* because a child is bad. NEVER. I don't know why your dad did it, but it could have been anything from drug addiction to depression, NEITHER of which were your fault.
It sounds to me like you live in a bad home situation. Do you have grandparents or other extended family you can talk to? You deserve much better than this.
Get some help hon. Please don't go through your life feeling this way. I'm sorry your dad killed himself, and I understand your anger. It was very unfair of him to do it. Just understand that he must have been very sick, even if "only" spiritually or emotionally, to have done that. Normal, healthy people don't take that step.
Peace.
2006-11-29 09:06:08 · answer #1 · answered by tagi_65 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You didn't kill him he killed himself. It is ok to be mad at ur dad for killing himself but you need to forgive him. have you tryed talking with a counselor about the way you feel or a therapist maybe? I put a list of sites you may want to visit. Even though your dad has been gone for a while that doesn't mean that you are over it. For some people who have a family commit suiside suffer severaly and that is what it looks like you are suffering from you really need to talk with someone. It may help to talk to your mom. by the way talk with her about what ur step dad said thats not something any type of parent should say.
2006-11-29 09:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by samcamcam 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not your fault. You were only five, a young child. You can't have done anything bad enough to cause your dad to commit suicide. Your step dad is just, for some demented reason, trying to make you feel guilty for something that sn't your fault. Don't listen to him.
What does your mom think?
Don't hate your dad. He may have had issues but you have to find a way to forgive him.
I am so sorry for your loss. Good luck.
2006-11-30 05:57:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cant be the reason for ur dad's suicide, if he did so he surely had some more serious reasons as a bad kid.. He made his own choice and no matter how hard it is u should respect it.
If it troubles you too much go see a professionalist who might help u with this problem.
2006-11-29 09:03:38 · answer #4 · answered by Magnetic 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it cant be anyone's fault to kill somebody if they didnt do it them self. (Im 13 too) If you're step-dad is serious then just think that aslong that you are not close to being in jail,or boot-camp then you're not bad. If he's joking then ignore it. trust me no one would be crazy enough to let a kid get to them.. Maybe there is a reason that he did it. Just hang in there and you'll be OK. if you have anymore questions, e-mail me. Good Luck!
2006-11-29 09:05:52 · answer #5 · answered by SuWizzle 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't let you step dad get to you. he is obviously dumb and abusive to said that to a little girl. your father shot himself cause he had issues and thought dyeing will easier. it has nothing to do with you. next time he tells you that tell your mom or a family member so they can deal with his sorry behind
2006-11-29 10:27:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you know you didnt and i would not worry about what your step dad said...you know your father loved you and i would not worry about what anyone else says...if you do have questions though ask you mother or another family member that knows the truth...
good luck!
2006-11-29 09:04:42 · answer #7 · answered by britt01 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't let your step dad get to you. Tell him he doesn't know what he's talking about and he should stay out of it, seeing as it's none of his business. If he keeps bothering you, tell your mom!
2006-11-29 09:02:08 · answer #8 · answered by tia 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not your fault! Your dad did what he did because of his own problems, not because of you. There is no way you could have either caused it or stopped it. Your stepdad is cruel to say those things to you.
2006-11-29 09:03:30 · answer #9 · answered by surlygurl 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your Mother and tell her what this man is telling you, if she wont listen go to a family member.
2006-11-29 09:36:30 · answer #10 · answered by LuNis 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋