2006-11-29 08:59:20 · 15 answers · asked by Clint N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Deep friendship and understanding, a deliberate building of something monumental together, a covenant of love that no one else may enter.
2006-11-29 09:10:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, it sounds like a joke, but it is not. The song the Gambler by Kenny Rodgers, the chorus to be exact. What makes my marriage happy is knowing about each other when to do these things for each other.
"Know when to hold 'em" - when affection is necessary, when I just need to feel loved and safe.
"Know when to fold 'em" - know when to give up the arguement. If all that is at stake is your pride sometimes you must let the other person win.
"Know when to walk away" - Know when space is needed, time to oneself is very important to maintaining your own identity within a pair.
"Know when to run" - Anger while necessary can cause many uninteneded blurt outs. When you are too angry to think clearly get out quickly and give yourself time to cool down before talking it out.
"You never count your money while you are sitting at the table" - be on the same page from the beginning about money, don't discuss things as they come up, have a set way to deal with financial decisions and stick to the plan. This avoids conflicts down the road.
That is about it. I have been happily married for 7 years.
2006-11-29 17:27:56 · answer #2 · answered by Jacy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is like a cake. Each brings in parts to the recipe. No one member of the union is better than the other. It is better to sit down and talk now than to fight later.
2006-11-29 17:07:51 · answer #3 · answered by Richard D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Respect for each other and what they enjoy to do and what they don't like to do. Also for me...it's laughter. My husband has the best sense of humor. If I'm in a bad mood...he'll just say something so silly and funny that I totally forget about what I was in a bad mood in the first place.
Relationships are hard and both have to work at them. Without Respect and trust...you have nothing.
2006-11-29 17:07:45 · answer #4 · answered by Michele K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is important to have the same values, goals, and hopes for your life. It is important to communicate--even if it turns into a fight--and actually listen to what one another has to say--even if you don't agree (because you won't always agree!). Laugh often & laugh a lot. It helps to be able to laugh at yourselves! Enjoy spending time with one another, and try to spend at least a half-hour a day actually talking to one another. Take time to eat dinner together without tvs, computers, phones or anything else. You have to keep getting to know one another or one day you may wake up and find you're strangers. Cuddle, kiss & hug often. Remember that you are best friends, but you are also lovers. Oftentimes, sex and affection fall to the wayside when life gets busy--and trust me, when you get married & have kids, life will definitely get busy--but, always make time to be intimate with one another. And most importantly, don't forget to love one another and constantly fall back in love with one another--over and over again.
2006-11-29 21:44:47 · answer #5 · answered by ms. teacher ft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust, communication, compromise, and lots of love and caring. Also a marriage cant be boring.
2006-11-29 17:59:42 · answer #6 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The understanding that it will not always be happy and that when it gets bad, both have to look how to make it better.
2006-11-29 17:07:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my husband for 14 years. We have been married 7. You have to be friends. You need to have understanding and you need to be able to talk about anything.
2006-11-29 17:09:07 · answer #8 · answered by K T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keeping God in your marriage and learning to make sacrifices.
2006-11-30 13:24:12 · answer #9 · answered by mssweets84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MARRIED 14 YEARS.
IF LIFE WERE EASY IT WOULD'NT BE HARD.
BE CAREFUL BECAUSE OPPOSITES DO ATTRACT AND IT WILL TAKE ALOT OF COMMUNICATION AND PATIENCE TO GET PAST 2 KIDS AND 4 YEARS.
BE CAREFUL OF BEING THE SAME BECAUSE IT MAY GET TOO BORING AFTER 14 YEARS,
BUT MY HUSBAND IS AN OPPOSITE AND 7 YEARS OLDER HELPS ALOT TOO,
WOMEN DO MATURE SOONER.
2006-11-29 17:39:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋