Once a cutter...Always a cutter...?

Question

What would you tell a friend who use to cut (4m depression)...then was able to stop for two years...then suddnly had a relaps, because that is the only way she knows how to deal w/ fustration... (she bottels it all up)
Thank You

Answer 1

I disagree with the statement "once a cutter always a cutter" because I have known many friends when I was in highschool who were cutters. Now that we are grown, NONE of them do it anymore. They have all gone on to further their education, have obtained successful jobs, or are married with children (or a combination of the 3), but none of them are still depressed or are cutters as adults. So, I would say unless your friend is in need of immediate psychiatric or medical attention then this will probably pass. Best of luck to you!

Answer 2

Honestly i dont know. i am 19 and up intill about 2 mos ago i had been free of cutting for 1 year. Then all at once i couldnt deal with things any more, and i remembred the relef i use to feel whaen i would cut and so i cut myself and onse again i am at the point where i have lost all control and cutting is the only thing that helps me. I think that pepole who cut even after they get the help to stop will always have urges to cut. its like a drug pepole who give up drugs will still sometimes feel like they have to have it and cutting is no diffrent. All i can tell you is to be there for your friend. whatever you do dont make her feel guilty about cutting because she probally feels bad enough. let her know she can count on you if she needs someone to tallk to. After shes a chance to trust you then mabey suggest to her that she tells someone annd offer to go with her.

Answer 3

I think it is possible to break the addiction to cutting. My sister used to cut, because she knew no other way to cope with the stress in her life. But she needs to learn better coping skills. She can try yelling really loud, writing, art, prayer (if shes religious) loud music. If she is into any type of art or expression now, she should explore that as a way to express her frustrations. I know it can be hard not to bottle the feelings up, but she isnt doing herself any good keeping them inside!
Good luck!

Answer 4

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Answer 5

It seems like you're talking about yourself... but umm about your friend... I know when I used to cut, my exfriend always wanted to talk about it and try to get me to stop, but it just got really anoying. Don't try to persuade her to stop, or tell her its bad. Just be there for her, get her to open up by asking her how she feels. Tell her that you care. Talk to her, and be there as a friend. Dont force her into seeing a couselor either.. my exfriend did that... and it wasn't cool at all. Let her come to that descion.

Also, don't make her show you her cuts..

Hope I helped :)

Answer 6

Get her to talk to you about her frustrations. Be a listener - not judgemental because that would shut down her communication.
If you can't help this way encourage her to get help from a professional.

Answer 7

talk to her just let her know you are there but i think your right i went 3 years then started again

Answer 8

I USED TO CUT ON MYSELF ALL THE TIME.I QUIT FOR A WHILE AND THEN ABOUT A MONTH AND A HALF AGO I WAS ANGRY AT MY HUSBAND AND DID IT AGAIN.MY FAMILY DOESNT KNOW CAUSE,WELL REALLY IT ISNT THERE BUSINESS TO KNOW.I DONT KNOW HOW YOU CAN GET HER TO QUIT.NOTHING WORKS FOR ME WHEN IM THAT ANGRY EXCEPT CUTTING SOMETIMES.

Answer 9

support her and listen...do your best to make her feel comforted. once she has a person who listens to her and helps her calm down she might start to calm down and stop