i'm married at the moment to my husband of 24.things were fine for the first two years but now we are falling apart, we don't talk, share, even care about how clean our house is.i can't take no more. all this has happened gradualy but now i have to make a choice ,since the only thing we do together is in bed and thats over in a few mins so now i want to tell him i don't love him anymore.i don't know how he will react as he is rather sensitve type of guy, so can people pls help me out and tell me how do i tell him .
2006-11-29 08:23:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him when he is in a somber but cheery mood, it's one of the most important decisions you will ever have to make in life so take your time.
2006-11-29 08:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by alpha.female 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heres an idea. why dont you tell him he's in danger of losing you. then go out and have FUN. make sure you laugh together, it'll bring you back to the closeness you must of once shared. y do people give up on marriage so easily? and it does sound like a cop out. it cant be all his fault so take some ownership of your problem and be a woman. you dont say you dont love him, you say you just wanna tell him that. you need to talk, you've identified problems now work at em instead of taking the easy route out.
2006-11-29 16:29:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just have to say it. You should really figure out if you actually ever loved him or better yet were you ever in love with him. There is a difference of loving someone and being in love with someone. That has to be a difficult thing to say and even more difficult thing to hear. Be very careful because you can't take it back once it's said.
2006-11-29 16:37:09 · answer #3 · answered by already_enuff_spice_in_this 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first couple of years of marriage are tough. you might think now that you don't love him, but that might not be the case. I thought the same after 12 months of marriage. after a couple of months of thinking about it, I finally bit the bullet and told him I was leaving him, packed up my stuff and went to my mums. It took me all of 24 hours to realise that it was a mistake! Took a few months but we got back on track, now 7 years later and we're still together!
I'd say you should have a real heart to heart with him. You might be thinking that he feels the same but he might be blissfully happy. Don't throw your marriage away just yet, see if you can work it out first
2006-11-29 16:31:46 · answer #4 · answered by Janus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is the sensitive type there will be no easy way to tell him.
Are you sure that this can't be worked out, maybe you should try counselling.
I think you should give your marriage one last chance, tell him exactly how you feel, if you don't talk about your feelings or needs etc how can you expect things to change for the better?
If he loves you he will change, in my case, my man didn't know what he was/wasn't doing until I told him, he didn't realise he was treating me like someone who just worked for him like he treated his staff in our shop, he soon changed :)
2006-11-29 17:17:21 · answer #5 · answered by debs1701 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really hope you listen to the advice above. you've got to give your relationship a go. it takes hard work and most of us think it's easy and we just get together and all is happy forever. but in reality we need to put in a lot of work to ensure we keep that sparkle that attracted us together in the first place.
please, oh please, start communicating with your man and try everything that is available to you to make this work. sure some relationships don't work, but before you come to that you've gotta to everything possible. talking here is a good start, now start talking to each other and go slowly and really listen to each other.
i wish you all the best in this.
2006-11-29 17:17:13 · answer #6 · answered by pugsbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've just got to be open and honest about how you're feeling. Also try not to use cliches as they can seem a bit fake and may undermine what you're actually saying.
2006-11-29 16:28:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1: do you not love him?
2: does he not love you?
3: you dont talk about children. are there any?
sorry but it sounds to me like you to have made not alot of effort yourself of late.
Think very carefully about what u are asking.
You may be really needing to ask where can i get help to save my relationship.
2006-11-29 17:51:10 · answer #8 · answered by PETER J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple: be honest. Either you will resolve the situation by talking and things go back to how they were ..... or ..... he'll realise your not happy and will agree to it. Either way - stick to your guns on this.
2006-11-29 16:26:29 · answer #9 · answered by Chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you thought of talking to relate to see if they can help you both?
http://www.relate.org.uk/
2006-11-29 16:28:16 · answer #10 · answered by richard_beckham2001 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋