Do YOU THINK IT IS RIGHT TO HIT YOUR CHILD AT THE AGE OF 14?

Question

becoz my mum still does!!

she actually hits me she spanked me until i was about 8 and then she started hitting me (mayb spanking wasnt working??).

Answer 1

Well it depends on what you did and how many times she told you not to do it. Spare the rod you spoil the child. Do you really think she is going to believe you are going to behave better if she didn't spank you? I got spankings once in a while at your age too and your age in particular you start to "feel yourself" (want the freedom of an adult without the responsibility). So in a nutshell if my daughter was your age and misbehaving and taking things away from her that she didn't like didn't work then YES I would spank her. So I agree with your mom.

Answer 2

It's not cool

You are a teenager
My mom when I was younger it started with spanking and then it turned to Hitting, Slaping, Punching, she actually tried to do this untill I was like 16 untill finally I told her what she was doing is wrong. I ended up moving out with one of my friends in highschool . There is a difference between hitting and spanking
and even a spanking at the age of fourteen seems a little off.
tell your moms how this makes you feel maybe she can think of a better way to teach you a lesson . Goodluck

Answer 3

If she is hitting you or if she has EVER hit you, that is abuse and it is wrong and against the law. You do not deserve to be hit by anyone, especially your own mother. She is supposed to protect from the outside world not be the one hurting you. From what I understand by the question she has been hitting you throughout your whole childhood and that is sickening to me. You shouldn't have to live that way. If someone came up to you on the street and hit you in the head you would call the police right? Do the same with your mother. I know it is a sad thing but you have to do something. Where is your father in all this? Do you have any relatives on his side that you can go stay with?

Answer 4

In the US spanking is legal until the age of 18, every state has it's own laws regarding the subject. What usually defines abuse is permanent marks left, such as bruises. Also most if not all states, regulate the spank to be on the bottom. I don't know how like you say your mom "hits" you. I am not saying I approve of her methods, but she is you mom, and has every right to raise you as she sees fit (as long as it's with in the law). If your being abused contact CPS ASAP, think real hard though, if it's abuse or punishment before making that call.


http://familyrightsassociation.com/info/spanking_laws.htm

Answer 5

I do not believe a child should be HIT at any age.Spankings ...if needed and it should be something very serious.And that's for younger ages, not 14 years old.Why did your mom hit you and how did she? meaning was it at the heat of the moment , out of anger? Hitting is not going to help ,it will usually make a teenager resentful.and cause more of a wedge in the relationship.if you and your mom argue and scream and it gets out of control.ask your mom to go with you and get some counseling.If thats not an option...when things get out of hand , both of you agree to take a time out.write how you feel on paper and exchange papers.nothing hateful though.only how each feel about the situation.Much more information is needed on what the situation was before your question can be answered more effectively.

Answer 6

It depends. Sometimes smacking does work in my opinion. But only if they ignore the message they are saying or other punnishment doesnt work. My nan still gives my mum a clip round the ear and shes 55!! It really depends on if your actually being naughty, or if you want to get away with more than you know you can. Few years ago I thought I was always right, noone had the right to hit me. and they dont. But trust me - its for your benefit. And you will see it one day. But if you think your being hit unnesseserily, talk to someone you can trust, like a family member or friend.

Answer 7

I don't think hitting is appropriate at any age- unless you need to impress a toddler immediately that something is urgent- like not running into the street, or playing with matches, or something that could hurt or maim them or others. But once they get older, and can understand reason, and communicate back, I think there are other and better ways to teach lessons, and punish. So no, you shouldn't be hit at 14, or rarely, if ever, at any age.

Answer 8

Hitting is never right. By that I assume you mean slapping your face, punching you.

Spanking on a kid's bottom is an entirely different thing. At 14 you are still not to old to get that once in a while. But the hitting thing is wrong--real wrong.

Answer 9

It all depends. If she truly HIT you then probably not. But if she jsut spanked you then sure it's still ok. It also depends on what you did. My dad forcibly pinned me to a table once when I was 15...because I'd shoved him and told him he wasn't the boss of me. He didn't hurt me or bruise me just showed me that he definitely WAS the boss. I don't think that's wrong when I was being confrontational and kinda violent myself. If your mom however just hauls off and smacks you for no reason then that's wrong.

Answer 10

Physical harm is just a sign of a parent that isn't not capable of finding a less scarring way to punish their children. There are so many ways to punish a child, especially a teenager, that resorting to physical harm is just laziness for finding a more suitable punishment. Hittign children can lead to making them bitter and angry at the rest of the world, only leading to more violence. There is no reason for any household to not be a safe, peaceful household.