what have i become ?

Question

i uesd to say to myself i would never be like some of my budies and my aquintances but instead i have become like them drinking everynight at the club haveing sexual activity with people i hardly know, become so arrogant and egotistical and pushing everybody i could have a decent realtionship thinking i am beter and biger than everybody away i uesd to say i would never become like my friend now i stare in the mirror and dont even know who i am anymore every one i love i push away in the end,

i need to know who i am , i want to find myself again

Answer 1

well, you recognize these things in yourself. That is encouraging. Since you recognize them, you have control over them. You can change them if you want. many people never realize things about themselves and cannot change.

Sit down and think about the things that you liked in yourself before. Perhaps write them down. Getting back to these things could be a goal.Find one or two that are the most important to you and work on those first, don't try to change all at once, this could be difficult and frustrating.

If you really want to change, then you can! Have faith in yourself.

I am rooting for you!

Answer 2

If you can admit what you want and don't want, you can act on it. It takes a lot to admit when things go wrong, and you just admitted. Now use that truth as a guide and pull yourself up and out to become what you really want. Put some distance and space between you and what you have become and return to where you were before this went wrong. Start over and do it right with good hindsight. Ditch your "friends" and make new ones that will make you feel happy and not like crap. Change your whole lifestyle- from clothes you'd normally wear when indulging to the rooms you live in. Tear it all apart and create what you think you need right now.

Before we can know heights, we must learn about the depths we are at odds with. You have half the work done...

Answer 3

It seems that you were going through a selfish time in your life, just living for the moment. I think we all do that at some point. Now it seems you might be ready for something more meaningful. You need to decide what that is. I think a good start is for you to mend some relationships that you might have neglected. Another thing is to do something good for someone other than yourself. How about some volunteer work? I think when you help others you are also helping yourself. You will feel better about yourself. It's a positive step.

Answer 4

The first step to changing is realizing that you are not what you want to be. Make a list of the things you want to change. Work on changing the things that are most important to you first. You can chip away at it one by one and next year this time you will be a better person in your eyes than you are today. Good luck, dude.

Answer 5

Then joining a religion isn't going to teach you that.

You need to gain control of yourself and live your life rather than relying on someone else to give you all the answers.

Answer 6

I think you are heading the right way, the first and hardest step is to see and understand what we are doing wrong, it looks like you did, now, turn your life around for the better, good luck to you!

Answer 7

It's quite simple, knock it off. Cut your "friends" off, they're not doing you any good. You gotta live with yourself, if you can't do that, and you obviously don't like yourself right now, then change. You already know this.

Answer 8

I'm sorry to hear you are so unhappy with what you have become. I hope and pray that you can re-center yourself and create a life that gives you happiness.

Answer 9

Read your question that is who you are. Maybe get some friends that are more like the person you want to be.

Answer 10

Start within yourself...... All your answers are there, you just have not learned to look for them inside because the world's existence is much easier to see.....

Your sister,
Ginger