Bipolar Relationship?

Question

Would like too know if someone with bipolar disorder,on meds.but has ups and downs constantly,is capable of having a meaniful relationship.This person has been in and out of relationships,just got a divorce and just broke up with me.Has had very harmful episodes that cost her 2 jobs and doesn`t seem to realize her problem.I loved her supported her emotionally but she has now said little things upset her,so it won`t work,plus I`m older than she is by 20 yrs.which we discussed before and she was fine with that.Again, is this a pattern for most bipolar people,I would like to know. Thanks

Answer 1

I am currently in an almost four year relationship, and we are getting married next fall. I have extreme ups and downs, they just aren't as frequent now that I have better medication and it is regulated better. I have however also been on the other side of the spectrum as well, I got married and divorced in a two year period, I went on the shopping sprees, I got the speeding tickets and reckless driving violations, all the general things that people say manic depressive people usually do. The only thing that keeps me on a more even keep is my current medication which has been working well for me for almost two years now. No one has a perfect relationship, and everyone has to work at keeping one going well, it's just the way it goes, but sometimes it can be a little rougher for people whose significant other is bi-polar. My fiance is by now used to my ups and downs and knows which little things get to me the most. I won't say that he tries to avoid getting to me, but he doesn't go out of his way to do things on purpose anymore. All I can honestly tell you is it's going to take work, and I'm sorry, but maybe a lot for you. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 2

They really just about need to be married to a psychiatrist in order not to completely ruin their lives over and over again, no matter how smart they are, if they are having ups and downs constantly even while on meds. Think about that....

Your age thing, all that other stuff I'm kinda reading between the lines on, and thinking you want it to work, you think she broke up coz of her illness, but maybe she just broke up. It is not necessarily a bipolar pattern, but her pattern for now, till she breaks it. If you can get her to tell you why she has gotten upset and broken up, maybe you can get back with her, but it might not be possible and you will have to let her go.

Answer 3

I have been treated for Bipolar disorder for over 20 years. Each person is different and has a unique personality. I wonder if there might be another diagnosis that your gal's doc has missed so far. Borderline Personality Disorder is often mis-diagnosed as Bipolar. One of the traits of Borderlines is that they are often very emotionally immature. To a Borderline, you are always at one extreme or the other of the good/bad spectrum.

And to answer your question, we all deserve to be in meaningful relationships; we just need to be in them with the right people. Remember, you have a relationship with a person, not with a "disease."

Answer 4

im a 54yo male and they just come out with bipolar about 12years ago i have not went to a doctor yet
but my life has ben hell in school i go off
i dont know how my wife put up with me some time the high an lows the up an down i have for no reason at all
i do wish they had knew about bipolar when i was a kid

Answer 5

Usally the meds work. Does she see her dr. on a regular basises?Does she have someone she can talk to. Not family or nothing like that.A thyrapst maybe? [I know I spelt that wrong] I just cant beleive Drs. would allow somebody to live that miserable.I am sure she is not doing something right in her recovery process.Good luck in the future.

Answer 6

Some bipolar ppl have major ups & downs, but it can be controlled w/the right medications. It sounds like this person needs to adjust their meds; take something diff, add another med, up the dose...

Answer 7

it particularly is harder for absolutely everyone with this way of disease to have a "suited" courting because of the fact of indications and area impacts yet no you possibly could have a solid realationship with each and every physique. It takes time and artwork to make any realationship a solid one. yet as long as you're taking your meds and save going to appointments you're able to have the potential to maintain a consistantly solid courting with the folk you adore and look after. a million for the reason which you attempt to help your self and 2 because of the fact in the event that they love and look once you they are going to stand by your area by thick and skinny.

Answer 8

i dont know but i am in the same boat as you sorry i truly feel your pain my bf has it and i am contenplating breaking up with him its so hard to be someone rock and i have been his for the past five years i am truly tierd but i love him so i will keep on trying

Answer 9

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Answer 10

hey, get her in touch with me, i'll pick up where you left off