Well, I think i have a good woman but I feel like a can't trust her. I want to give her the benifet of the dought but my past want let me. I've been cheated on before and have also been the other man. She has a baby by another man and I think she might still have feelings for him cause he was her first and other littly things i notice. Am I trippin is this problem all in my head?
2006-11-29 08:03:41 · 13 answers · asked by p q 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She said he gave her low self esteem and that I'm bringing her self esteem up. She asked me to go out so am I the guy for now untill she feels better about her self.
2006-11-30 06:28:54 · update #1
OK you can not judge your relationships now by your past relationships in the past. It is not fair to the person you are seeing now, unless she has told you or talks of her ex often. You also have to take into consideration she has a baby by her ex and he will always play a major role in your lives if you choose to stay! It is going to take a strong man to be a part of that, are you man enough is the question. You need to set down and talk to her and let her know how you feel, and remember dont judge her by what has happened to you in the past! Trust me I have been cheated on before to, it sucks but you have to move past that and learn from it! Good luck pal!
2006-11-29 08:13:04 · answer #1 · answered by beckett305 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you should give her the benefit of doubt. When you have children you are always going to have feelings for them not the feelings you are thinking, just that connection that u both have regarding that child it's only natural. I do Understand the feelings of doubt since u have been cheated on before it only makes since but as u know we are aren't the same and if u spend all your time worrying you may miss out on a good relationship
i hope this helps
karen
2006-11-29 16:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by karen e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, you can trust her...........just not completely.Dont take anything for ganted, especially if she is fine and sexy. If she is, she may get hit on all the time and unless you are being all that she wants in a man, she may run across a smooth talking, well endowed guy with a little more cash than you. Sounds cynical , I know. But there is nothing like experience.
2006-11-29 16:10:18 · answer #3 · answered by clubpamper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but becasue they have a kid together they will always have to be cordial, But I do believe you should give her the benefit of the doubt. I would not have her hold the bag for the wrong and pain others have casued you. It takes time to move on from the pain others have caused. But if you dont, you might miss out on the one true love.
2006-11-29 16:09:05 · answer #4 · answered by faith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never doubt your intuition. Only you know what she is saying or doing. I'm wondering - how could she be a good woman if you can't trust her? Really now, think about how that sounds. You deserve a good woman that involves love, trust, respect, honesty, and passion. Not~~doubt, worry and lack of trust. Go with your gut~don't push those little red flags aside. Good Luck.
2006-11-29 16:09:37 · answer #5 · answered by Lovely &..... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to be honest she probably still does have feelings for him but that doesn't mean she doesn't have feelings for you first of all, second of all he was her first and they had a baby it takes years to really drop all feeling for a person if they're your first but she had a child with the guy, ye she's still going to have some feelings for him but rathere than stress about it and ask total strangers if your girl(someone none of us know) i would reccomend that you just go talk to her about it and sort things out, don't go in accusing her but seriously jealousy is going to kill you if you don't resolve it
2006-11-29 16:08:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not tripping I say run like hell. You never should get involved with someone who has feelings for another person. I mean really what kind of relationship is that?
2006-11-29 16:05:25 · answer #7 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her go you dont want to get hurt you sound sweet there is someone out there for you just move on and you will see
2006-11-29 16:06:56 · answer #8 · answered by yours truly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of nice women out there?!
What she has that other don't?
Talk with her seriously and he she repeated, simply leave!
2006-11-29 16:08:45 · answer #9 · answered by Iranian Amigo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how long yall been together if she still have feeling for her baby daddy then naw you cant trust her
2006-11-29 16:06:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋