Theres this guy and we started talking.. again.. see before he cheated on me... and he's trying to come back into my life.. swearing that he has changed for the good.. but idk.. maybe he has.. i just don't want to feel the same pain he put me through before i don't want to go down that road again.
I thought i was over him.. until i seen him again. and all these feelings came rushing back.. the good ones and we talked a bout all the times we'd shared..
i want to let him back into my life .. but should i??
2006-11-29 08:01:19 · 11 answers · asked by Ja.Leah.Shuh. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes love can be the most powerful source for a person's redemption, remembering a lost love that was can make people yearn to be loved like that once again. if you truly feel that you can trust him again, not only his actions but his words and feelings let him again, BUT you should keep your defenses up until you honestly think he's changed. Don't let him know play defencivly but don't bend to what he wants as willingly as you once did, that goes for sex too. If you do this in alot of aspects and he keeps saying things like "what the hell, we've done this before! why aren't we doing it now?" listen to the tone in his voice, it will definatly tell give you an indicator of his motives, weither he wants love or simply a romp in the bed
What it really boils down to are you honestly ready for the realization that someone you once loved is at the door of your heart again. do you let him in or do you tell him to take a hike, and if you let him in are you going to keep remembering the bad memories and let those take control of your actions, either way 'prepare for the worst, pray to dear god for the best"
2006-11-29 08:18:13 · answer #1 · answered by ianstrife_77_77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO once a cheater is not always a cheater. This is hard for me to admit but i cheated on my partner a long long time ago. I have never cheated since, THe hurt that i saw on there face still burns into my heart today and this happened 6 years ago.
2006-11-29 08:06:06 · answer #2 · answered by michellewinegar433 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No girl DO NOT take him back he will cheat on you and end up hurting you. Dont do it!!! If you want to take that risk of getting hurt again then get back together with him. And also why does he want to be in your life so bad? Did you even bother to ask him why he wants you back so bad? Is it because the other girl he cheated on dumped him so now your the rebound girl? You need to talk to him some more.
2006-11-29 08:04:31 · answer #3 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never be able to tell for sure, so you have to decide if this is a gamble you want to take.
If you strongly feel it is worth a second try, and think he is being sincere why not.
But don't rush into anything cause he has to prove himself to you and you need to weigh the situation.
2006-11-29 08:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never heard of a cheater that stopped being a cheater. People who lie will lie again. Unfortunately that is just the norm.
My father-in-law cheated on my mother-in-law not just once but multiple times until he found his current wife. He might not cheat on her, but he lied to my wife, his daughter, and I about why he did not help my mother-in-law with their children.
Take care,
Troy
2006-11-29 08:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not....the old saying is true...Once a cheater always a cheater......Don't let him remind you of the good, if he would have really enjoyed his time with you nothing would have made him stray.He took advantage of your love by letting you get hurt....Don't walk down that road.
2006-11-29 08:30:49 · answer #6 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont listen to that quote, some people learn after cheating the first time and realize how bad they hurt their love. i give 2 chances if they blow it again then the hell with it.
2006-11-29 08:04:19 · answer #7 · answered by barrelracer12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no.
but this is up to you..are you willing to give him a second chance? and if you are don't give him your whole heart at once make him prove him self to you.
2006-11-29 08:05:40 · answer #8 · answered by babie919 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do you need to take it nice and slow and don't expect anything from him. He needs to earn your trust again.
2006-11-29 09:33:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
he might like u more if u got fattening up sweetie
2006-11-29 08:04:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋