When I was pregnant his mother would say things like she would kidnap the baby if I left him and that if we broke up they would keep it. Also that I had to let them do certain things with the baby. She was so pushy always talking about his ex's and how he would be with one of them if it wasn't for his other ex. Things like that. Now I just don't like her and I was real depressed during my pregnacny and now that he is here I don't feel comfortable letting him be alone with them and take him places but I dont want that. Am I crazy? How do I get over it? I am suppose to marry this man and if I don't want feel comfortable with his parents around what should I do? Please help me I am going nuts.
2006-11-29 07:55:00 · 5 answers · asked by l_lv6 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell your boyfriend after the things his parents said, you do not like them and you certainly don't like the way they threatened to take your child from you. Either he stands by your side and supports you on this or else he can kiss this relationship goodbye. Tell him no one threatens your child like that and you don't care who that person is!! Tell him he can take it or leave it, you're not changing your mind especially when it comes to your baby.
2006-11-29 09:14:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The grandparents do not have parental rights. You and the guy do. The baby is your child not theirs. Are you sure that you want to marry into this family? They sound like bullies to me. Bullies without legal rights. Kidnapping is against the law.
When my son and his ex wife seperated and divorced, her parents asked for grandparent rights. The Judge told the grandparents that they could see the child during their daughter's visitations with the child. That's all they got. No extra time was set aside for the grandparents.
You have the upper hand here.
2006-11-29 08:08:17 · answer #2 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to like your inlaws, but they have visitation rights where their grandchild is concerned. If you marry the father, maybe you can move to a different town and put some distance between you. When they visit, they can stay in a hotel/motel instead of your home.
You can also file a complaint with the police that she has threatened to kidnap the baby, but that might be a bit extreme.
2006-11-29 08:10:10 · answer #3 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My mother in law is the same way. First how does your bf feel about how she talks to you. If he allows this she will continue even after you are married. My husband told his mom to keep her mouth shut and quite frankly we hardly go around her any more. You will be miserable if she doesn't stop her abuse. Your bf needs to stand up for you. If he has to choose, he needs too. I would talk to him first and see if he will talk to her and if he doesn't you may need to tell her yourself. And as if she would have the courage to steal your child. Tell her she is a stupid woman.
2006-11-29 08:01:58 · answer #4 · answered by ransdoll90 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not at all unreasonable that you don't like your boyfriends mother. The described behaviour is not acceptable at all.
Try talking to our boyfriend about it. He's the one who should fix it up, it's his family after all. You should expect him to be on your side, not on his familys. You're the one he's going to spend the rest of his life with after all. If you both agree on this, have your boyfriend demand of his parents to treat you with respect and if they don't threathen with that they cannot see their grandchild or the both of you if they do not stop misbehaving.
If he refuses to see a problem you have a quite serious problem with your relationship.
2006-11-29 08:06:06 · answer #5 · answered by confused 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋