I was in love with my ex-bf years ago, we were very happy together, but were young. He got into trouble a had to go away for sometime, and we lost contact. I moved on an am currently in a realionship with my boyfriend for 5 years. My current bf knows about my previous relationship because he knew us back then (but we all were not friends). So i recently have been in touch with my Ex, he applogized for leavin me years ago etc, and we email each other often. He is in the Marines and stationed in Iraq but wants to meet up when he comes back to the states. I have always hope to get back with him but now its a lil complicated. I know my bf would hate me if he knew b/c he always was afraid i would leave him for my ex. What would you do?
2006-11-29 07:49:56 · 16 answers · asked by sweetchic117 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
:) I like the answers i have received so far. I would like to add that i have had many problems in my current rel. and things have been good for just the last 2 months
2006-11-29 08:29:13 · update #1
I would seriously would have to follow my heart on that one. I mean what one do you see yourself with for life or for a very long time. Who make u feel happier? Ask yourself questions to see what you really want. Don't settle and don't let anybody persuade your choice.
2006-11-29 07:55:29 · answer #1 · answered by ML 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been with your current boyfriend for 5 years and you don't see a problem with seeing other men, maybe it is time for you to reevaluate your current relationship. There must be something wrong with it for you to feel the way that you do. Figure out what you want with the current man before you talk to the old b/f, that will just make things more complicated.
2006-11-29 15:52:54 · answer #2 · answered by Beck 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your current boyfriend if you guys are truly happy.You're being emotional about the past which you might not really know your ex anymore and you never know if maybe he's just lonely right now and wanting to use you.I don't think you should jeopardize a good relationship for memories of what might have been.
2006-11-29 15:53:29 · answer #3 · answered by SarahF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally know of only one case where the girl left her current for a previous. She only got with the current on the rebound, and he turned seriously abusive after about three years. I think the previous was the Only person on earth that had the leverage to get her out of that life-threatening situation, so we were so grateful for that fact that we could give a s&%t weather the renewed relationship lasted or not. (By the way, it did last).
Every relationship is different.
2006-11-29 15:55:19 · answer #4 · answered by NoPoaching 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would stop talking to the ex and I wouldn't meet with him. It's been 5 years and you've moved on. And your boyfriend might not like the fact that you are in contact with your ex and hiding it from him. It could cause problems in your relationship. So if you are happy and you love your boyfriend, then forget about the ex.
2006-11-29 15:55:32 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Quentin's Mommy♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really you're the ONLY one who can answer that. You have to do some soul searching to find out what you want. Say you take the chance and meet up with the OLD b/f and there's just nothing there, but new guy finds out, gets hurt and breaks up with you? Then what? If you've always hoped to get back with the old guy, then maybe you SHOULD take the chance on seeing if you can make it work...but...be HONEST with new guy - he deserves that much.
Right now I know you're torn, but only YOU can decide what you should do. Obviously you love new guy, you've been together 5 years, but you have that "what-if" thing going on for your old guy. Is it worth it to risk it? What does your heart say?
Gentle hugs & best of luck to you honey, Lynn
2006-11-29 15:55:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your screen name is sweetchic117. Maybe it should be
I'll_abandon_u117. 5 years is a long time to just forget about. Why would you even consider this... i bet you've told your current boyfriend that you wouldn't get back with yuor ex a bunch of times in the past, haven't u?
2006-11-29 15:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dam, that's hard. Because he's stationed in Iraq, and, not to seem harsh or anything, because he could possibly die in the war, I'd follow my heart. If you want to see him and talk with him again, then do it. Life is too short to keep hanging on to something that's replacing what you wish you had. Go for what you truly want.
2006-11-29 15:55:25 · answer #8 · answered by keipitright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you all ready have your answer. You know your going to get back together with your ex.
So just try and let your boyfriend down easy and don't cheat on him,,he has been with you for a long time so he deserves to be told how you relay feel.
good luck
2006-11-29 15:54:45 · answer #9 · answered by babie919 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in love with your current boyfriend stay with him but if your love is greater for your ex then give it a shot while your still your
2006-11-29 15:55:15 · answer #10 · answered by Jenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋