My boyfriend and i have had the greatest relationship for the past 2 years and complete trust. Then I found out he was texting 2 girls and had given out his work cell phone. He said it was wrong and it had nothing to do with us. It was and ego boost and it made him feel like he still had it. Then things seemed great again and when I was putting away the hats and gloves his work phone was in it. He diliberatly hid it because he thought I would freak out if I saw it. It concerns me more that he hid it because if there is nothing to hide why not just bring it home in plain view and leave it on like his other phone? That is the best way to re-establish trust. I want to believe him because his character and family values have always been consistent for the past 2 years until this. That is one of the many things I love about him. If this was a momentary lapse in judgement I know we can get back what we had. However what if I am wrong. He said it was like a mid-life crisis. Is this possible?
2006-11-29 07:27:09 · 6 answers · asked by electra4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you really want to be in this relationship, keep your eyes wide open. On the meantime, work on yourself, do something fullfilling and re focus your atention inwards , not outwards (him).
2006-11-29 07:33:25 · answer #1 · answered by morganna_f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beware the person who gives you a single dogmatic answer. This is a personal issue that deserves more time to evolve. If he was honest enough or clever enough, to say it was about if he still had it then that is what it is, nothing (only you can tell). If he promised not to do it again and has continued then your problems are more serious but not relationship ending. Confront him lovingly and let him know your heart without emotions triggering defensiveness on his part. Good men mess up ALL THE TIME. But we do stuff that is senseless and unintentional not maliciously. Best way to tackle is to be sweet, loving and honest. He'll respond in kind, or be a knucklehead. But you'll have a solid foundation of discussion to work with. Hope it helps.
2006-11-29 15:39:47 · answer #2 · answered by Cee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. If he his hide his phone, then what else is he hiding. I don't knwo what I would do in ur situation. Did u checkt he phone to see if he had called any other women? If so, did u call them...I would want to get to the bottom of it and see if he was telling me the truth from the getgo. But some men do go through that and they need to feel like they could still hook up if they had to. It's a tough call, but give himt he benefi of the doubt. Work on making ur relationship stronger and don't read too much into things.
2006-11-29 15:36:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no this is not mid-life crisis this is case of beening dishonest with you.you said this concerns you as it should.the question is why is he texting other women if he is happy with you.trust is hard to re-established once broken.take a good look at things sometimes we see what we want to see and not whats good for us.do not be fooled. there maybe more here then text messaging dig a little deeper.i hope you have good luck with your friend.
2006-11-29 15:39:33 · answer #4 · answered by annjilena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems emotionally insecure. I'd be cautious if I were you. Do you think he'd be as forgiving if the situation were reversed? I know it's painful when things don't work out, but wouldn't you rather find out now than years later? Good Luck
2006-11-29 15:32:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that shattered the trust didn't it
2006-11-29 15:57:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋