She has been in and out of hospitals for depression all her life, she takes 2 medications for her disorder and we found out she isn't taking her medicine and some strange stuff is going on with her. I tried giving her the medication and she said I was giving her the wrong stuff, she hears voices, she won't get out of her room and she is getting violent when she is out. I have never said a rude word to the woman but when I found out she wasn't taking the medicine I told her I was going to start giving it to her, that went fine and she ended up getting a hold of it and wouldn't let me or my husband give it to her, she says she isn't incompetent and so on. Now she hates me, she says it's her kitchen, she says she is married and waiting on the marriage license in the mail, it's so many things to say. it kills me b/c I care so much about her, when she was weak I fed her breakfast, lunch, dinner, I cleaned her rooms, I have never been hateful to her. Is there a support group for me advice
2006-11-29 07:24:37 · 9 answers · asked by momma whitley 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sweetie it is nothing you have done.Bless your heart She needs to be taken to Her Doctor..and he needs to be let known what is going own with her..She dose not know what She is saying or doing ..This is something hard to deal with.You will have to get her some help because She could be dangerous to you all and her self..And this is not a job for one person all the time it will drive you crazy..Maybe a nursing home...But you had better check them out because some are terrible And you have to check own them daily to see to it that they are being taken care off...I have been their..I know all about it...All I can say is God bless you through all of this you are facing.When things get rough call own Jesus I know for a fact you can always count own Him. He busy so we all have to wait our turns...God bless you all...
2006-11-29 07:51:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best support group for you is your friends and family they will always be there for you and tell how it is. If you go see some kind of doctor for help they are going to tell you to put her in a nursing home, and I don't think you want that either. I know it is hard for you, my mom took in her dad who was ill for 2 years before he passed away. It was very hard for her to deal with. It is kind of the same thing you are going trough, he was vilent at times at would not take his meds. So I am going to tell you this is only going to get harder before it gets any easier. Just remember friends and family. When they say do you need anything don't be affraid to take the extra hand. Well Good Luck.
2006-11-29 15:43:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where ever you live there should be support centers to help you get by. Just go online, looking for support groups to cope with elderly. In my area, there are 4 centers that I know of that offer means of help or at least someone to talk to that may have been or is in that situation. Don't feel bad of how you are being treated, she probably doesn't even think that she is saying hurtful words or actions to you. I can't say that I know what you are going through because I don't have an elderly living with me. My Nanny lives in a retirement facility and gets visits from her kids (my mom and aunts and uncles) regularly and she sees pictures of my family and my kids and when I stop to visit her she repeativly tells me that she doesn't know me but asks me to wait outside while she visits with me girls who she thinks she has known forever. That hurts but I want my kids to know her so I think about her as I remember her when she was younger. Good luck with your situation.
2006-11-29 15:35:46 · answer #3 · answered by nbmama2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the cheese is falling/has fallen off her cracker. As people age, they tend to get a little cranky and forgetful, dementia's a fate that awaits most of us if we live long enough... Be compassionate, but make sure she takes her meds, too. Also, look at her diet. Make sure she's getting plenty of vitamins and so forth. That bit with the vitamins can make all the difference in the world...
2006-11-29 15:29:32 · answer #4 · answered by gokart121 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should consider putting your granny in a group home. I know that sounds callous, but if you don't she isn't going to get the help she so obviously needs. Do a google search for elderly support groups in "your area" and see if there are professionals near you who can help.
It is obviously painful for you to see her like this, just imagine the image your son has of his grandmother, seeing her at her worst like that.
Please get professional help, and soon.
2006-11-29 15:30:34 · answer #5 · answered by vamedic4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r a caring person,and very kind.going off meds is a real problem.also,living in the past,like the "waiting" for marriage liscence thing-well,thats very common in alzheimers and other forms of "senile dementia",such as brain damage caused by tia's("small strokes",as theyre sometimes called.).please have her evaluated by a physician.its common for such patients to become argumentative and hostile,even to beloved family members,whom they may not even recognise.definatewly see a dr about these concerns.good luck!
2006-11-29 15:37:02 · answer #6 · answered by Lyn K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her doctor should be made aware of her behavior and just look in the phone book for senior services and you should be able to find a support group. :o(
2006-11-29 15:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes call senior services in your area they can put you in touch with the right people. Good luck, stay strong.
2006-11-29 15:31:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consult her physician or your family doctor. There may be nothing you can do for her. Consider a resting home.
2006-11-29 15:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by iMedic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋