So I ran into an ex-boyfriend of mine from a few years back the other night at the bar and we started talking. When the bars closed I invited him and a few other friends back to my place. While there he confessed to me that he "still loves me" and "made a mistake letting me go" and that he wants to "try again". I was a little shocked because he was the one who ended the relationship in the first place. He wanted an answer right then and there and I told him I couldn't give him one that very second. I said I wasn't ruling anything out but also not ruling anything in. We never fought, have the same friends and get along great. The reason he broke up with me is because someone put some horrible words in my mouth and he reacted the way anyone would in his situation. Once he realised the truth he felt it was to late to make things better and "let me go".
He is a wonderful person but I don't know if it is s good idea to get back together with an ex.
What do you say?
2006-11-29 07:16:32 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well you have to look at the fact he step out on you behind a misunderstanding, why? why would he throw it all away and not clarify the situation with you beforehand. Ask him that question and see what he says. As women, it is important that the man in our life is a protector and provider, now those title interchange with whatever situation may arise, but nonetheless those qualities need to exisit. Now, you stated you date a few years ago, have your personal goals changed since then, have you grown educationally, emotionally and/or spiritually since then? If so, compare his character/personal goals/etc. to want it is you truly would like in a man, and simply ask yourself -- does he even measure up.
2006-11-29 07:25:54 · answer #1 · answered by darylann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am kind of in the same boat. Although its been more than one time and the same old things happen so I am now just friends if that with him. He should not presure for an answer right away. You both need to talk things out. Take one day at a time and see what happens.
2006-11-29 07:22:03 · answer #2 · answered by homesweethomediana@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a 3 a.m. hook-up to me. If he wanted an answer on the spot, then he was only there to hit it again.
Don't do it unless you still have feelings for him.
I always say "an ex is an ex for a reason". Why backtrack to the past to end up with the same results. Let it and him go.
2006-11-29 07:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by bux_martinfan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was he drunk when he said all this? Have you two been talking since then? It is always risky going back in to something. If you do make sure it is for the right reasons and he is not using you and it is really what you want
2006-11-29 07:25:04 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone put horrible words in your mouth? I'm totally confused. Please, let the booze wear off then decide. If he was so great he would have forgiven you long ago, not after a night of carousing.
2006-11-29 07:21:17 · answer #5 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a decision you are going to have to think about and decide for yourself
2006-11-29 07:19:56 · answer #6 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋