What do you do to spice up your romantic life? What do you feel is appropriate being a Christian married couple? We've been married 15 yrs. and need some ideas. I know I'll get smart aleck answers, but also know there are Christians out there who will answer me honestly, so it's worth getting all the bad answers I'll probably get! What types of movies do you allow yourselves to watch, etc. What about alcohol? Thanks in advance for the honest, sincere answers!
2006-11-29 07:14:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
First of all punkin, congratulations on 15 years of marriage! I too have been married for 15 years, we make sure to have our date nights, maybe going to dinner or sometimes just for coffee. We are a Christian couple. We will watch movies (not x rated ones mind you) but we do watch secular r rated movies, as long as they are not too graphic. We do share a bottle of wine from time to time, but never in excess. I hope this helps a little. God bless.
2006-11-29 07:21:44 · answer #1 · answered by Sunspot Baby 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That's actually a good question. I've been with my wife for 18 years, 10 as a Christian, and sex is a special part of that relationship. I believe that it is partially through the sexual intimacy that a married couple shares that the two become one. I don't believe that the Bible says because we're Christian that we must be boring, therefore explore different positions, even orally, these are not sins. Even become adventuress in locations, but remeber the law. Create romantic / fun / spontaneous moments - be different. You know variety - spice and all.
BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY - remeber sex should be an intimate way to draw closer together, therefore artificial stimuli such as porn, tools, or alcohol may be short term solutions but will eventual cause you to wonder, finding your excitement in something or someone else. Keep the focus between you and your partner - AND HAVE FUN!
2006-11-29 07:26:42 · answer #2 · answered by Tony S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been married for 4 1/2 years. We met at a Church camp, and we've been involved w/ youth ministry ever since we've been together. We don't believe that it's right for a Christian to drink (personally we believe that "all things are lawful, but not all things are profitable" and that our drinking alcohol may be a stumbling block for Christians that are weak in that area, and being in youth ministry, that's a huge responsibility that I take seriously. What would an 8th grader think if they saw their Youth Group Leader walking into a bar? OK, I'm off my soap box) and we live in Montana, so there's not much to do, but we have special nights where we cook together, we go to the gym together (fun fun fun! :) just small things that we do together, and enjoy eachother's company. We do watch movies (lots and lots of movies) we watch a huge variety of movies . . . . no porn though. Our favorites are action and comedy. We are careful with the profanity/nude/sex scenes in the movies we watch. I hope I helped, I kind of rambled.
2006-11-29 07:35:42 · answer #3 · answered by Carpenter's Daughter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not rely on alcohol to boost my romantic life. Nor would I choose pornographic material. A good romantic movie usually works for us. Spontaneity is always good. Don't get in a rut. We have been married for 30 years and we still enjoy a good sex life. We have a friend who came home for a visit a couple of years ago and accidentally walked in on her parents in the act of making love. They were 86 and 84. She said she never dreamed that they still did it, but she thought it was so sweet that they did. Of course, she needs counseling now because of it. May I suggest the following movies: The Notebook, The Love Letter, Far and Away, The Magic of Ordinary Days, Love Comes Softly, Loves Enduring Promise, and Pride and Prejudice.
2006-11-29 07:26:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you may be better served to ask this as a general marriage/relationship question. I'm an agnostic, but I have been married for 16 years, and things are very good in all areas, but I suppose you don't want to hear what I have to say, since I'm not a Christian. I won't bother telling you. But I will give you a hint: Being open to new things doesn't hurt at all.
2006-11-29 07:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My wife called the fire captain at my fire station and arranged for me to be released from duty without my knowledge. Captain ordered me home when my replacement showed up at the firehouse. I was confused, but he said go home your wife needs you! He then said it was not an emergency so drive slowly.
When I arrived home my wife had all five kids at their cousins house. She was dressed in a beautiful black evening dress looking fantastic. I said, Wow! When I walked through the door she had cooked a fantastic dinner, and the table was set very formally with candle light, and cool wine! She poured the wine, served the dinner, and had movies picked out for us to watch....we did not get that far, but our marriage was renewed! This was around our 12th anniversary. 11 years later I have NEVER forgotten that evening or moment in our 23 years of marriage! She is and always was a special lady.
God Bless.
2006-11-29 07:27:59 · answer #6 · answered by Lives7 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Go help someone together. Maybe someone in an old folks home or something like that. IN helping others you both will feel better about yourselves and toward each other. You will each think more highly of the other. Make it hands on not just a check for 20 bucks.
2006-11-29 07:18:43 · answer #7 · answered by beek 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The Bilble says that there is nothing unclean in the married bed...or something like that. In other words, as long as it's with your spouse pretty much anything goes. Since fantasy talk and that kind of thing are out of the question, maybe you should try a toy!
2006-11-29 07:17:17 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
have you made your own homevideo yet? you should try that and then watch it together.
how about a sex swing. or those blocks that help you do hard possitions. how about sex in public places. make sure you don't get caught though. you might scar a child for life.
how about playing dress up and acting out a script. try going to sex shop and see what they have to offer for toys. there is a natural suplement that men can take called gogoplex or also called the ropes. try that.
how about taking sleeping pills and letting him have his way with you.
get a good quality sex game. have fun with food.
i'm a kinky person can you tell?
2006-11-29 07:21:25 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Remember - the marriage bed is UNDEFILED. Anything you do with your husband that you both want to do is fine. Read Song of Solomon.
In the meantime, visit themarriagebed.com. It is for Christians.
2006-11-29 07:43:10 · answer #10 · answered by robinc1117 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋