Im gna be 16 on monday n i jus recently got into a relationship with a guy 8 years older than me, n my mum found out his age n told me to end it, but we have become very attatched to each other n i really dont want to end it, neither does he, n i dont wanna go behind my mums back, so i dont know wat to do...
N before any one says "im too young" dont bother, cos there was 8 yrs difference between my mum n my step dad n 6 yrs between my dad n my step mum, n wen were together age is not a factor as we get on so damn well...help me plz..
2006-11-29 07:03:05 · 6 answers · asked by ladee_in_luv 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ive read all the answers, n it seems lyk its easy for ppl to say on thr out side, but im stuck on him n vice versa, wen my dad met his wife he was 20 summat, lyk early 20's.. im finding this really hard, plus he never metions sex, so its lyk das not wat he wants...help please..
2006-11-29 07:24:21 · update #1
Ive read and considered all these answers, and i ended it with him, but we dont behave lyk people who have jus split up, were really feeling each others vibes n i REALLY dont wnt to let dis one go, cos as much as i can find any other guy, i dont really want to, but i dont wanna hurt my mummy, is there anyway i can resolve this any make everyone happy? i really lyk dis guy n i dont want da heart ache jus cos my mum dusnt lyk the situation.
I want her to meet him but i dont know if thats a good idea, but i think it wuldchange her perspective on everything if she did. Sorry this question is so long, but this is a really big problem...HELP!
2006-12-02 19:55:06 · update #2
Well there may be an age difference between the adults that you speak of but the fact is that they are adults and you at 16 are not. This man that your seeing is also an adult (or his age is anyway) and so should not be interested in a young girl your age unless he is quite immature. Life isn't always fair but you'll break plenty of hearts before your life is over and sad part is that your heart will also be broken many times. Sorry but this seems like one time when your's will be broke, whether you obey your mom or not as there is very little chance that this relationship will ever work out. Find someone more close to your age and someone that your folks would approve of.
2006-11-29 07:11:14 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's 7 years between my husband and I, but I was 24 when I started dating him.
Honey, 16 is too young to realize that your Mom is right! He's a perv for even looking at you. Run from him! Go and get yourself some cute 16 year old. This older man does not have good intentions, or he is a loser who can't find someone his own age.
2006-11-29 07:14:06 · answer #2 · answered by avalonlee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him - you shouldn't be dating someone eight years older than you when you are only fifteen. He shouldn't be interested in you because at that age, the age gap is too big. When people get older, the age gap doesn't seem that big, but at this age, the maturity level is a major factor. Listen to your mother.
2006-11-29 07:06:17 · answer #3 · answered by Liss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are right!!! You are 16 find a boy your own age! What does a 24 year old man want with a child? SEX!!! Move on
2006-11-29 07:14:20 · answer #4 · answered by lucyloulady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur parents are older so its different for them. ur only about to 16 so u shudnt be wit a guy tht much older than u in the first place. enjoy ur teenage years and dnt grow up to fast. find sumbody thts closer to ur age. u can still be just as happy if u do.
2006-11-29 07:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by black_gurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run!!!! take it from me, PLEASE! i got involved 7 years ago with a man who is 17 years older than me. momma told me not 2 & i didnt listen. oh, we have a lot in common, I said, hes young at heart, I said, he's more mature & can take better care of me, I said.... mom was right! being with an older man has been a night-mare. trust me. I realized their was a problem when I found out he told his friends I was older than what I really was. he calls me a kid all the time and never takes me out. RUN!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-29 07:14:20 · answer #6 · answered by leekee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋