My mom whom is 46 had a heart attack on Saturday 11-25-06
I was there with her when we got the news & now all I want to do is be around her more than ever, I am 29 & have never went thru anythihng so scarry in my life, I would go nuts if I ever lost my mom & I am not sure if that is why I want to be around her all the time or if this is normal, We are very close & The thought of losing her is unbearable, the heart attack was a severe one, but she is home now & all I want to do is go be with her, Is this normal or am I being paranoid???
2006-11-29 06:51:00 · 16 answers · asked by bite_me_harder_28 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nope, you are being normal. The threat of a life endangering illness when it concerns someone that you so obviously cherish is something you should react to. Give yourself time, ask her doctors everything you need to know in order to help you understand what risk she has of another heart attack. Also, be proactive about learning what she can do to decrease the chance of a second heart attack and do everything to support her be it diet, exercise, or medication management.
I think the more information you get and the more proactive things that you do will help you feel more comfortable about how your mom's heath is. The more you know how well or ill she is, the better you can gauge how much attending to she really needs. God Bless you both- dd
2006-11-29 07:01:34 · answer #1 · answered by dedum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's completely normal. Too often in life we take loved ones for granted. We never know when we will each come to reach our own mortality, so it is important to spend time with the ones we care the most about. That being said, I hope you are still able to live your life without being paralyzed of fear of not being with your mom at all times. The best thing you can do is to make sure your mother receives the very best medical care and that she takes as good of care of herself as humanly possible. I hope she gets better.
2006-11-29 14:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by Rckets 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal...I would probably do the same thing you do. You want to spend as much time with a loved one because you almost lost them. Many people take things for granted. That's why you should always leave on good terms. I worked with a lady a couple years back and she regretted arguing with her husband right before he left to work... on his way to work... he got in a car accident and died. So sad... but anyone's life can end instantly. Good luck and hope your mom is doing okay and recover soon!
2006-11-29 14:56:07 · answer #3 · answered by ~dat~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As we get older our parents do to and it is a tough reality that we will most likely see them pass before we do. I think that this experience has made you realize how precious the time we have with those we love is. It is very normal to come to this realization when something to confirm this happens. I think it is wonderful that you spend lots of time with your mother-never take the time you have with the ones you love for granted as you don't know if you will have tomorrow. I hope she lives on for many years and the two of you continue to love and cherish you relationship. Best Wishes!
2006-11-29 14:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by laura_lovely_sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately most of us do not truly value our loved ones until a near loss or loss does occur.
Guess we just assume that we will have time on end with each other.......to right whatever differences and love.
It is comforting to both of you, I am sure, that you were with her at the time of the attack.
These can indeed be life changing.
Do not allow yourself to become paranoid about this, for she will feed off of your concerns and extra stress she does not need.
Take each day at a time, for that is all any of us are promised anyway.....one day at a time.
Wish her the best on her road to recovery and as each of you care for and love one another!
2006-11-29 15:49:09 · answer #5 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you aren't being paranoid, that is the only Mother you'll ever have show her how much you lover her. Tell her everyday but don't bring up if you should die because she already knows that could happen at anytime.
2006-11-29 14:58:08 · answer #6 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is normal you she went through a tramatic experience. as well as you seeing he rliek that. it is natural to want to be around her more since you may be afraid it could happen again. im not close with my mom and if that h appened to her i would be the same way. and since you say you have a good relationship with you mom you will want to be around her more. just to help her with whatever she needs and help you through the experience
i hope she gets better! you too!
good luck
2006-11-29 14:54:09 · answer #7 · answered by laa dee da 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not paranoid. You've had to face another fact of life, that we all will die one day. Your Mom is so young too, so its not weird that you are concerned about her. Maybe while your around, you can help her eat better/live better so she can be around for her grandchildren.
2006-11-29 14:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by ndngrlz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that anyone who cared for someone would react this way. I think that is normal that is how I would act so spend as much time with your mom as you want to.
2006-11-29 14:54:43 · answer #9 · answered by Jen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think your being paranoid....concerned yes....and sure you want to be with her...that would be nice....I hope your Mom is doing much better........My prayers are with you both.
2006-11-29 14:56:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋