I talked to my bf that I wasn't sure if he needs to say sorry to me for hurting me two weeks ago. He admitted he had a strong feeling on my friend. He shared his fantasy and telling me how much he wants to be with her. I was very hurt and he knew that. Today, the problem is solved, he promised me to stop pursuing my friend and still want to be with me. He said he didn't do wrong to me, he didn't think that was wrong for having a feeling on my friend. What do you think?
2006-11-29 06:48:24 · 5 answers · asked by Crazy in love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Feelings are just that: feelings. Did he act on them? It is normal to be attracted to people. I am a married woman, and I'm still attracted to a guy I know. My husband knows all about it, and they are friends.
If he is truly sorry, let it go. It's not worth ruining your relationship over!
2006-11-29 06:52:09 · answer #1 · answered by tinkerbell24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he's human so he's allowed to feel things for other people. However, his way of going about that is alarming. First, he told you. Why did he do that? To make you jealous? Or give you a reason to doubt his committment to you? That's not very nice. And second, the amount of feelings he's saying he has for this girl. If I were you, I'd break it off now. Tell him to go get whatever it is out of his system before he hurts you. If after some time apart, you mutually decide you want to be back together, then go for it. Good luck, sweetie. Don't let him control you like this. Own yourself.
2006-11-29 14:53:39 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I don't know why on earth he would TELL you he had feelings for your friend and share the fantasy, then think that would not hurt your feelings? I for one wouldn't trust that he's not going to pursue her, and you will probably worry about that too. I don't think it's wrong for him to have feelings, as no one can control that. I think he crossed the line though, and should apologize bigtime.
2006-11-29 14:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by oneamy2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every human has certain feelings that they can't help but feel or express.
he was right telling one this, because in most people if they keep in what they feel, the feeling will get stronger and stronger. telling about his feelings and letting you know that everything is alright tells me that he really loves you and want to be with only you. if he kept it from you, who knows what would have happened.
the thing is do some of the things he likes. become so connected so close that soon these so called thoughts get pushed out.
2006-11-29 14:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him - He wants to be with your friend, probably doesn't have a chance, now he wants to be with you again - Dump him!
2006-11-29 14:56:03 · answer #5 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋