I just broke with my girlfriend who I had a long distance relationship for 1 year. I think she is amazing. I was in a long term relationship (5 years) where we lived together for 2 years, and I was single for 2 years before this girl. I broke up with the current girl because I'm 26 and I have a desire to be single. I feel that she could be the one, but I have a reservation deep down that the timing isn't right and I need to allow myself to be single. I'm a little worried that I jumped into another serious relationship so soon. She seems to have been completely ready to take things to the next level (moving to the same city for which she needs to apply for jobs in 1 month to be considered), but I don't think I'm ready to reciprocate her commitment. Am I stupid for letting this chance slip by? Or is it normal and constructive to have a single life? Or perhaps I just need a little time to get over being single before I get back with her?
2006-11-29 06:45:43 · 9 answers · asked by D Hizzle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I totally understand what you are going through. I feel that you need to look at the reasons as to why you feel that you need to be single. Do you want to be single because you still feel that you need to experience some things alone? Do you want to because the people who have been involved with just don't seem right? Do you want to because you just simply want to have fun and the people in your life are not good enough or do not satisfy that feeling? I think that is the problem. I feel that you can possibly lose this girl forever if you decide to be single but then again that is not always a bad thing. That is a decision and risk you are taking. I think it is great to take risks. I also feel that if you do not feel that this girl is the one- then you need to tell her and you need to go out and be single. Are you over your ex-- is that making you feel like you need to be single? I feel that if you are bringing up your ex of 5 years then that has some bearing on your decision :) I do not want to assume.. but there is a reason for bringing that up. I just think you need to look at why you want to be single instead of wondering if it is a mistake.
2006-11-29 06:56:29 · answer #1 · answered by Denise G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your questioning things now, then its best that you break it off now before there are any major commitments like her moving, or getting married or something. Only time can tell if you are truly meant to be together. If its meant to be, it will be. But for now you went with your gut instinct and that is whats important. Your not stupid for letting anything pass by, your smart for protecting yourself and her from something so great turning bad. Be single and see where life takes you for the time being.
2006-11-29 14:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by ELW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your first response is usually the right response. Long distance is hard to begin with. Faced with the next level, and her desire to move closer to you brought on your "braking" because you had a "friend" elsewhere, and still could go out with others with her being none the wiser. Now? Her wanting to move made you have to look at the long term. If your not ready, you are not ready.
2006-11-29 14:50:42 · answer #3 · answered by ndngrlz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, I feel your pain. I went through a similar situation as well, and I'll spare you the details unless you really want to hear them. It's been almost 2 years now and I still think about her from time to time. I thought I would never recover, but I did. It takes a very long time to endure the heartache and recover, but it happens.
And no, I don't think you're stupid for passing this by. If you decide to do it its gotta be on your terms, without pressure.
2006-11-29 14:50:59 · answer #4 · answered by Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's just normal, every one goes through break-ups, but If you want to be with her, why don't you just tell her, that you need her in your life, but your not quite ready to move up to the next level , if she can understand that, but that's just what I think...
2006-11-29 14:48:47 · answer #5 · answered by All I need is you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u kno what? some guy is doing the same for me and all im gonna say is stp f u k in around with her feelings...u either like someone or u dont and no, its never too soon if u r prepared for it,,,if u are able to love then u are ready
2006-11-29 14:50:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your jumping into another relationship so soon after dumping her says it all. You are not ready, are only anxious she may find someone and it won't be you and frankly my dear, you wouldn't know what you wanted if it bit you on the nose. Please do thie girl a favor and steer clear of her till you know what you are doing!
2006-11-29 14:49:41 · answer #7 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you love your freedom and enjoy your life with no one to control you, i;m not sure what to tell you your like a wild person, and want to do everything but your not willing to be in a serious relationship, i think you need to think about your life and take thing more serious
2006-11-29 14:56:47 · answer #8 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its normal talk to her about how u feel
2006-11-29 14:49:13 · answer #9 · answered by spots diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋