when we first started dating he had a friend that when he went to his house he would not come home and they would go out and get really drunk and go to places that i dont approve of. the friend ended up with a girlfriend and all was fine and now she has broken up with him and he calls my boyfriend and now he is going to his friends house on my birthday weekend. i already flipped out and i will not put up with that behavior again. what should i do?
2006-11-29 06:39:46 · 19 answers · asked by mel2430 4 in Pets ➔ Cats
Well if flipping out didn't really work out good for you and you really care for him, then I suggest sitting down and pouring out your heart to him, when I say that I mean sit with him or take a walk with him and start telling him how you fell. Explain to him that what he is doing with "O boy" is really affecting your relationship and that it is hurting you as well. You need to be as honest as possible with him as possible but in a cool matter don't scream at him or anything of the sort, cause then he will close up on you and just walk out and go with his boy again you know what I mean. Good Luck I hope everything works out if it doesn't don't forget that there are other fish in the sea.
2006-11-29 06:53:03 · answer #1 · answered by muneca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you will not put up with that behavior again,so what are you gonna do to fix the problem? You should tell him his friend respected his girlfriend and did not go out when he was with her and ask him why he can not show you respect.I would even let his friend know he is causing a problem in the relationship.It really dont make sence to argue with him everytime he goes out so either get him to respect you or leave.Dont let him walk all over you.I have a feeling you know how to fix the problem because you said you will not put up with that behavior again.Go on your instincts.
2006-11-29 07:07:08 · answer #2 · answered by darlene100568 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is usually true what they say--you can't change another person unless they want to change themselves. If the friend is more important to him than you even on your birthday, you may already have your answer. You've said you won't put up with that behavior again, so don't. Trust me, there are plenty of good guys out there that would probably love to spend a birthday with you, but you'll never know if you don't let this one go. Good luck!
2006-11-29 07:03:14 · answer #3 · answered by jemmamomma 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you dont' want to put with that behavior then don't. Dump him. You can't change another person and telling your boyfriend you don't approve of his friends is a sure way to get him to spend more time with them. He's free to go out drinking if he wants to. Just because he's your boyfriend doesn't mean you get to tell him what to do!!
2006-11-29 07:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U could inform ur dad and mom. i understand shell hate u a jointly as although im specific ur mothers and fathers can rigidity her to no longer date that tyron guy. If u dont do something shell finally end up with drugs and theguy will sell off her. Does sheeven comprehend that would below no circumstances have infants back by way of aborting that 1st one?And im now no longer conversing approximately her age
2016-10-04 12:44:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are mistaken him for a cat, that may be driving him off! Stop serving him cat food, leaving a litter box out for him, and asking advice about him in the cat area and perhaps he'll return to you and be the boyfriend you want him to be.
2006-11-29 06:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have a talk with your boyfriend. Let him know how you feel and that it's unfair to you and your relationship what he is doing. Let him also know that what he is doing only shows his priorities. If this is his first priority then the ball is in your court and it's up to you to accept this or not. Good luck
2006-11-29 06:46:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Avoid flipping out. Just sit him down and explain yourself. Flipping out will make him not want to come home!
2006-11-29 06:45:09 · answer #8 · answered by Michael N 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
talk to him when he's sober and if he shows no improvement you'll have to dump him cuz things could get out of hand.
by the way, why did you enter this question in the pet/cat category?
2006-11-29 08:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by alpha mutt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel about his new friends. If you think they are bad people and you don't associate with these type of people explain to your bf that you want nothing to do with these friends and you don't want to hang out with them! Explain that you if he is friends with these people he must give your relationship number one!!! Tell him you're not mad when you don't want to hang out with his friends it's just you don't like them!!!
2006-11-29 06:45:50 · answer #10 · answered by sweetpea1987 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋