2006-11-29 06:24:03 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Tough love usually works. Parents obviously find it difficult to have their child move away but I think the best move is to state your intentions and reasons while letting them know that you still love them...and stick to your guns. If you think this is the best move for you don't sacrifice what you want to do in life and have regrets. I moved away and it was hard for my parents and I but they now understand my reasons and we both visit each other and have loads of fun.
2006-11-29 06:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by metz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are a few items you should address with your parents:
1) Why are your parents uneasy?
If you've been a wild child in the past, they may want to keep an eye on you. Or if you are a member of a small minority group, they may be worried about people giving you a hard time when they can't be there to support you.
Don't make up the reason. Talk to them, and make sure you understand what they're saying. You don't have to agree with it, but if you can respectfully understand their point of view, and not argue with them about their feelings, you may find that they are more open than you expected.
2) Why do you want to go?
If the school you are attending has a weak Chemistry Department and you want to be a Chem major, that's a good reason for change.
If the other school has stronger job placement, alumni networking, or graduate school acceptance rates, those are also legitimate reasons, but less straightforward.
If you just want to go to get away from your parents, that's a hard sell! ;)
3) How are you going to pay for school?
If your parents are paying now, and you don't have any other options for paying, you may be stuck. But you could apply to the other schools, including for financial aid, and see what happens. Or you could apply for scholarships that would let you go anywhere. You could also plan to go part-time and work to pay your own way.
I recommend being as specific and concrete as possible.
2006-11-29 14:32:50 · answer #2 · answered by MomMomBob 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The simple answer is that it depends upon who is paying your tuition. Are you parents uneasy about you leaving home, or not being accepted, or not being able to "make the grade" (no pun intended) or not being responsible enough to live on your own or worried about additional expenses? I think that you need to weigh all of those things when making such a big decision.
2006-11-29 14:34:34 · answer #3 · answered by Toadsputum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your life. It you're able to finance it (and not expecting mom and dad to pay the bills) then it's your call.
However, mom and dad do know you fairly well, and perhaps its time to sort out why they think that this isn't a good idea. You can still do what you wanna do (providing you're not asking them to pay) but you might just save years of family strife, as well as some school pain for yourself.
2006-11-29 14:33:17 · answer #4 · answered by geek49203 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How 'bout you be the adult that you are and make your own decisions?
Take their concerns to heart and consider them in your decision making process, but make the decision that is right for you.
2006-11-29 14:38:22 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah and also there is no money
2006-11-29 15:34:48 · answer #6 · answered by lins 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋